Cee Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Last night, I saw that two close friends put "in a relationship with" status up. I thought it was cute and sent a relationship with request to my BF. Currently, he has no relationship status and mine is "in a relationship." Then I changed my mind because it seems silly. I'm perfectly happy with not announcing my BF's name on my profile. But I can't cancel the relationship request without changing my status to single first and then back to a relationship. And that would cause confusion among my FB addicted friends, including my mom. Is there an easy way to cancel a relationship request? I feel like an idiot posting this, but I am not Facebook savvy. And Facebook isn't as intuitive as I wish it were. Thanks
BetheButterfly Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 (edited) I don't know how to cancel it, but wouldn't it be ok to just talk with your boyfriend about it? My fiance and I discussed the facebook status thing, and he said he wants to cancel his account and join mine when we get married. Right now, neither one of us have any relationship status up, but we have pictures of us up. Pictures speak more than words. Edited June 15, 2011 by BetheButterfly
stepka Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 How sweet you are to not want to confuse your mom and friends! My dd posted in FB that she's engaged. Trouble is, she's 19 and in college, she's gay, and I barely know her gf. When I asked her about it she just airily blew it off with "Oh that's just how we do things--get with the program mom." Mmm hmm, and I wasn't born yesterday but maybe with that attitude I won't be stuck paying for a wedding, lol.
SnowandStars Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Can you just hide your relationship status? I think that is an option.
Author Cee Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 I'm surprised that you can't cancel a relationship request easily. What if you accidentally send it to the wrong person like your cousin or a coworker who has a similar name? I can hide my status, but I think there's a notification about that. Not sure. I have seen notifications "no longer single" but that meant they hid their status. I think I'm going to let the request slide. He's already gotten a push notification via email and is probably rolling his eyes and muttering, "Facebook." I can tell him to not worry about it. Or I suppose he could click deny.
Art_Critic Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I wouldn't worry too much about it.. my wife never accepted my request either That stuff means nothing...
alethean Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Maybe you could quickly change your r/s status back to single, go on your profile and delete the update that you are now single before anyone sees, then change it back to "in a relationship" and delete that update too. If that makes sense.
Shadesofgray Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Yeah anything on your FB wall (Like where it says you went from in a relationship to single) you can hover over on the right side and a little X will come up and you can delete it so noone can see it.
Author Cee Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 I wouldn't worry too much about it.. my wife never accepted my request either That stuff means nothing... No point in removing the request now. I'll leave it for him to look at and mock. I only hope he realizes that I wasn't that serious about it in the first place.
WhisperinnWinds Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Yeah, you can 'x' it off of your wall so people won't see it as easily. My partner is one of those types who claims he hates Facebook, he couldn't stand it, etc. We had a fight and separated for about two weeks. During that time, we slowly started to reconcile - our relationship was off and I had grown very fed up with some of his behaviors. I took a relationship status off completely - no 'single,' nothing. I just didn't want to acknowledge that we were in a relationship when we weren't, and I didn't want the drama of 'single' when invariably everyone posts on your wall. Once we reconciled, he grew increasingly bothered about it. I'll be the first to say that Facebook is just a site, but it's also an announcement board. To him, it felt like not having that on there was me expressing my shame in him or trying to hide the fact that we were together. When you've in love and with somebody...I think it's normal to want to announce it.
Shadesofgray Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 No point in removing the request now. I'll leave it for him to look at and mock. I only hope he realizes that I wasn't that serious about it in the first place. And...what's wrong with wanting to have it on your facebook? It's one thing not to make a big deal about it..but..if you guys are together then i don't think there is anything wrong with it
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