AmericanHoney Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I met this guy on okcupid and we have been chatting back and forth and today he asked if I wanted to meet for drinks on Friday. Problem is I am super nervous! I have never met anyone online before so that too makes me nervous. Should I drink something to calm my nerves???
Rinnix Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 First dates always make me nervous too, its normal. Just go with the flow, no expectations, and lead from there. If a drink will help you, feel free to take one, just not too many.
welikeincrowds Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Yeah of course! I have a whole arcane ritual for dealing with this. Starting hours beforehand, I typically: 1. Take a 15-20 minute shower 2. Spray cologne on naked body 3. Wear only favorite pair of underwear for a while (much to roommate's dismay) 4. Full shave and lower trim if necessary (even if I do not expect to be pulling it out) 5. Straighten hair 6. Lotion up 7. Pour myself a glass of whiskey/bourbon 8. Frantically clean house until spotless (even if I do not expect her to come over that night) 9. Iron clothes if needed 10. Get dressed in front of a mirror 11. Straighten hair 12. Pack: wallet, gum, keys, phone, pocket notebook, pen 13. Thorough toothbrushing + Listerine 14. Leave house, forget something, come back, leave house again 15. Arrive on time, date melts upon her first glance 16. Give her this face: All thanks to the routine.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 What do I talk about?? I don't want to scare him off or sound boring. Like nice weather we are having huh? I am sure that would be a date killer lol
OliveOyl Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Yeah of course! I have a whole arcane ritual for dealing with this. Starting hours beforehand, I typically: 1. Take a 15-20 minute shower 2. Spray cologne on naked body 3. Wear only favorite pair of underwear for a while (much to roommate's dismay) 4. Full shave and lower trim if necessary (even if I do not expect to be pulling it out) 5. Straighten hair 6. Lotion up 7. Pour myself a glass of whiskey/bourbon 8. Frantically clean house until spotless (even if I do not expect her to come over that night) 9. Iron clothes if needed 10. Get dressed in front of a mirror 11. Straighten hair 12. Pack: wallet, gum, keys, phone, pocket notebook, pen 13. Thorough toothbrushing + Listerine 14. Leave house, forget something, come back, leave house again 15. Arrive on time, date melts upon her first glance 16. Give her this face: All thanks to the routine. Wow, didn't realize guys had such a routine too. I thought y'all just slapped on a fresh set of clothing, grabbed your keys, and were ready to go. To the OP, you'll be fine. I got really really nervous on my first dates too but they were fine.
welikeincrowds Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 What do I talk about?? I don't want to scare him off or sound boring. Like nice weather we are having huh? I am sure that would be a date killer lol One time I was with a good friend of mine chatting up some girls, and I said to them: "So, happening party, huh?" This was not long after my friend had said "So, you go to [school everyone there obviously goes to]?". We weren't doing too well
welikeincrowds Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 (edited) Wow, didn't realize guys had such a routine too. I thought y'all just slapped on a fresh set of clothing, grabbed your keys, and were ready to go. I'm not most guys But seriously, you're right, most guys don't bother with that ****. I just think it's fun to have a moment to bandage my fists and tighten my black belt and stand on one leg and whatever. I also forgot to add the step where I put on music (usually either rap, or songs sung by a man for a woman). I sing along, obviously. Edited June 15, 2011 by welikeincrowds
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Wow, didn't realize guys had such a routine too. I thought y'all just slapped on a fresh set of clothing, grabbed your keys, and were ready to go. Wait, I'm supposed to put on fresh clothes?
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 (edited) What do I talk about?? You want to find out more about him so that you can decide whether to date him again... so ask about him. Did he have a good day at work? What does he do? Does he see his parents often? Does he live alone or share a house or whatever? What food/movies/music does he like and does he have a favourite restaurant/film/band? (and if he has a favourite restaurant, and this isn't it, and you're enjoying the date, ask him when he's going to take you there.) Does he have any hobbies? How often does he go out in the evenings with his friends and what sort of evenings do they have? Has he travelled to any interesting countries? Does he play/watch sports? Have another read of his profile. Any of that stuff, even the goofy stuff, might have a story behind it, so talk about that. Read a newspaper that day. Talk about the main or local news stories... "Did you hear what the mayor said about the xxx. What do you think he should do?" (Although, politics can be divisive, so be careful.) Since you're meeting via an online dating site, you can talk about that, too. Has he been on the site for long? Has he met many girls? What was the weirdest date he went on via that site? Is he seeing anyone else at the moment? (That last one might be a bit personal for a first date, or not, depending on his/your style.) Don't ask about things you're not prepared to talk about yourself. Hopefully he'll be asking you a few things as well, and you'll find that you have some things in common that you can talk about. Don't try and remember all of this. Just have a good time. Good luck! Edited June 15, 2011 by oaks
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 girls have the upper hand in online dating. if it doesnt go well you can have another date tomorrow. for guys it could be 2 years before a next date It could be, and I've had long periods without dates. On the other hand I had 3 dates in 3 days the week before last. The 3rd one was great. What are you doing to get dates?
thatone Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Wow, didn't realize guys had such a routine too. I thought y'all just slapped on a fresh set of clothing, grabbed your keys, and were ready to go. To the OP, you'll be fine. I got really really nervous on my first dates too but they were fine. we do, he's a wierdo!
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