flashbug Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 (edited) so i met this girl at work a few months ago. she's a student doing an internship for her college education. we get along really well. and i sensed there's chemistry between us. however she had already been seeing another guy from the college for almost a year when we met. she doesn't talk much about her boyfriend so i don't know how's that relationship working out for her. what i do know is that i really like this girl. i never had a woman in my life that gets me like she does. and i think it could really work if only she's not with the other guy. i have been in similar situations before but i never even thought about getting in between a couple until this time. in september her internship will be over and she will be back to school so i won't be able to see her very often with completely innocent excuses and she will be with her boyfriend all day. apparently if i don't do anything by then i will not have a chance anymore. so if there's anyone here who has experience in this area: should i go for it? what can i do in 2.5 months to make her... well, at least keep her options open? any advice and/or sharing would be appreciated. Edited June 15, 2011 by flashbug
Teknoe Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 should i go for it? NO. N-O. One of life's rules is you never ever ever mess with someone who is already in a relationship. It's only going to end bad for all parties. Trust me on this one. Don't even think about it anymore. Just walk away. if i do what can i do in 2.5 months to make her... well, at least keep her options open? This is very manipulative and not heading in a healthy path if you continue down this road. A girl cannot control who she likes. It just sort of happens. And there's not much you can do (or rather should do) to convince her otherwise. I say leave her alone romantically. You might want to pull back on the friendship a bit too if you think you can't handle it emotionally, which is my recommendation since it seems you've already crossed that line. I know it's tough. You think she's the one, maybe. But don't do it. Don't go for it. Be wise. Don't be a fool. And certainly don't be somebody's fool.
whichwayisup Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Do nothing. Or..You tell her that if her relationship ends to keep you mind. Until then, do nothing and don't go chasing after a girl who's been seeing someone for a year. Just because there is chemistry there doesn't mean you have to have her!
Author flashbug Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 (edited) thanks for the advices, teknoe and whichwayisup. i've been thinking about it in the past few days and i decided not to make a move. now, about this: Or..You tell her that if her relationship ends to keep you mind. i think this is a good idea. although i probably will wait until the end of her internship just to avoid the awkwardness when we meet at work. so, what would be a good way to tell her that? should i do it in a casual way whenever i get a chance or maybe i should pick a special occasion that shows how serious i'm about this. any more suggestions? Edited June 20, 2011 by flashbug
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