somedude81 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 There was this story of an ugly princess who wanted a spell to look beautiful. Magicians came from all over and failed to make her lovely and beloved. One day a poor peddler came to the palace and gave her a small, unassuming rock. He told her that it was a very special magic rock, and all she had to do was to hold it every morning and smile into the mirror. Disbelieving yet desperate, the princess did as she was instructed, and lo and behold, people started smiling and complimenting her, and she got married to a nice, handsome prince The princess looked high and low for the peddler, to return the magic rock. But the peddler laughed, and told her to toss the rock back into the river where it came from. It was always just an ordinary riverstone. The magic came from within herself when she smiled. So there we go! Self confidence, and smileleeeeeeeeeee! I'd post the face palm asci if wouldn't get me banned.
Rinnix Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 See signature. Everyone has their on insecurities, every now and then people should be complimented. Though over excessive insecurities, are unappealing, I'm sure every one of us has had days where they see a monster in the mirror. Some people get it out of them by posting, while others have other alternatives.
Arikel Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Lol Somedude, I'm a tad hyper. But you gotta admit its a good story!
Lilmisus Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 There was this story of an ugly princess who wanted a spell to look beautiful. Magicians came from all over and failed to make her lovely and beloved. One day a poor peddler came to the palace and gave her a small, unassuming rock. He told her that it was a very special magic rock, and all she had to do was to hold it every morning and smile into the mirror. Disbelieving yet desperate, the princess did as she was instructed, and lo and behold, people started smiling and complimenting her, and she got married to a nice, handsome prince The princess looked high and low for the peddler, to return the magic rock. But the peddler laughed, and told her to toss the rock back into the river where it came from. It was always just an ordinary riverstone. The magic came from within herself when she smiled. So there we go! Self confidence, and smileleeeeeeeeeee! Cute story..but, kind of dumb at the same time I couldn't help but wonder if the people were paid to compliment and smile at her, if she smiled at them too (or just into the mirror), and how the prince felt about marrying someone so insecure. Stupid things to wonder, but I couldn't help it. I think it should be changed to "he told her to hold the rock, smile into the mirror, and tell herself that she's beautiful and list all the things that she loves about herself, every morning. Soon, she began to realize just how beautiful she was, started smiling more, and everyone smiled back and complimented her on just how beautiful she really was." Then the nice (why does he have to be handsome? ) prince comes along and just verifies what everyone's said and she lives happily ever after, with a smile glued to her face till the day she dies.
Tybalt Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I also like, "One day she laughed, suddenly realizing that the rock had been a placebo all along. And the nice, handsome prince came into her life, which was a wonderful thing, a great addition. Yet she enjoyed that relationship and all the other positive aspects of her life knowing that whether they came or went, whether she lived alone or with someone else, life was a revelatory, amazing journey that she had the confidence and happiness to enjoy no matter who, if anyone, she ended up with."
Ginger Beer Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 What the ****? Is this a joke? I'd take you out on a date. People can be cruel, you just gotta say eff em and do your thing. Any chance you live in the Chicago area? lol My first thought as well. OP, you're clearly lacking confidence, I also think what your mum said could be really hurtful. I'm not just saying this because you've posted this thread but if I was to see you in the street or something and we got talking, I would ask for your number, you're not ugly at all. You are a 7. Definitely not ugly. I know you probably didn't mean this in a bad way but I don't think marking her out of 10 is a nice thing to do. You are not ugly! People can be so mean I swear..... Yeah, I agree.
Airborne Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 And since I know people will ask, this is me at my very best: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a70/vertical_sky/me_bodyshape.jpg I know you from another forum. What are you looking for, someone to finally say you're ugly? Good luck with that, this crowd is far too civilized to tell a girl that even if it were true. You're relationship problems stem from elsewhere, it might be simpler thinking you're ugly and that's the problem but it's just not the case. Many girls who are actually ugly manage to find a decent long term relationship. Oh and that's definitely not you at your very best. Post the one where you're in the dress.
Ginger Beer Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I know you from another forum. What are you looking for, someone to finally say you're ugly? Good luck with that, this crowd is far too civilized to tell a girl that even if it were true. You're relationship problems stem from elsewhere, it might be simpler thinking you're ugly and that's the problem but it's just not the case. Many girls who are actually ugly manage to find a decent long term relationship. Oh and that's definitely not you at your very best. Post the one where you're in the dress. Yes please.
Arikel Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Ack all the politically correct ppl here (and cynical!) it's a fairy tale, they all end with living happily ever after!
mogul Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 You are a 7. Definitely not ugly. She didn't ask to be rated. You are juvenile for throwing any number out. It takes a lot of courage to post a pic for the world to see. With that said, op, you are by no means ugly.
musemaj11 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 She didn't ask to be rated. Yes she did. Even you rated her yourself by saying she is not ugly.
LexiB Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Ah. Well I think the makeup looks a bit too plain and you can work the short hair with a nice cut. Highlights will work wonders. Or you could try extensions. Update the fashion a bit and work on the midsection. I've been in your shoes feeling ugly and whatnot but it turned out to be less about ugly and more about plain jane. Agreed. If anything your look should be described as plain, not "ugly". Plain can be easily remedied with the modifications described above. Ugly..not so much.
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I'd really like some advice. You're not ugly. Stop reading now. I'm not really a boob person, but I can tell you're not making best use of your assets. You could lose a few pounds around your tummy. You could colour your nails. Is there going to be a dimple in your cheek when you smile? Smiling helps. The photo is blurry. Photos taken in the bathroom never look classy, and outside under natural light is better. My advice: Pick some of those things and change them.
thatone Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I am wearing make-up in that picture, and I can't grow my hair out. (I have really thin, oily hair, so growing it long just makes it look limp.) well make up your mind about it. cut it short or grow it at least shoulder length. halfway in between looks kinda bad. there's nothing wrong with short hair on women.
SnowandStars Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Everyone has their on insecurities, every now and then people should be complimented. Though over excessive insecurities, are unappealing, I'm sure every one of us has had days where they see a monster in the mirror. Some people get it out of them by posting, while others have other alternatives. Been there and honestly, compliments from random people on the internet mean nothing because... a.) We assume you all are "just being nice." b.) The compliments don't match up with our real-world experiences. We are still not getting real-world attention from men so give it a day and we're back to feeling ugly. Now of course I say this from the point-of-view of my "old" self. I fished for compliments constantly and the reassurance still didn't make me feel any better in the long run. You get a boost for maybe 5 minutes and then the hot girl walks by and BAM, you feel ugly again. You have to see attractive when you look in the mirror. The reassurance has to come from within.
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Now that I've internet-stalked you over to a different site and read a pretty much identical thread from last month I'd like to revise my advice. New advice as follows: You think you are ugly. It's a state of mind rather than what you can capture with a camera. Change this first, and the rest will follow. Good luck!
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Oh and that's definitely not you at your very best. Post the one where you're in the dress. I agree with this.
SmileFace Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Strong stalker skills in this thread - lol kidding However, OP you need to love yourself. If you believe you are ugly. Guess what?
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Strong stalker skills in this thread - lol kidding She has some great photos. I can only guess why she's showing this particular one.
SmileFace Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 She has some great photos. I can only guess why she's showing this particular one. Because sometimes people just want to be right.
Taramere Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Hello everyone. First time poster and I'd really like some advice. I've spent most of my life thinking I'm very physically unattractive. I didn't get my first kiss until my freshman year of college. In high school, some of the kids actually locked me inside a locker because they said I was "too ugly to look at." People would offer to sign my year book and then write," Ugly people like you should kill themselves." Even my mother says," You're average looking, and that's fine; that's nothing wrong with being average." I agree with your mother. To me, you look average - and by that I mean you look fine. Not a fashion or glamour model, but a perfectly nice looking woman nonetheless. You're not the one who is going to get hit on and whistled at every time she leaves the house, unless you dress up like an attention-crazy trollop...and in that situation, you're just going to be getting the wrong kind of attention. You are certainly not ugly. Generally if I were a man I'm pretty sure I would think you were pretty enough to be sexually attractive, muted enough in your style to suggest that you're a well adjusted and sane person...and generally look like somebody who takes an interest in her appearance but isn't obsessed by it. Unfortunately this thread suggests that the last part of that perception (ie not appearance-obsessed) would be incorrect. I've tried to just accept this, and just deal with what I was given, but sometimes it seems I'll never be able to escape being ugly. I'll sit down with a group of women for lunch, and they all start "complaining" about how much attention men give them See that for what it is. Boasting disguised as complaining. ... I absolutely NEVER get flirted with or catcalled. Strangers are friendly, but absolutely never flirt. I've never been catcalled or whistled or hit on. You've got to remember that there are various factors at play when a man is hitting on/catcalling a woman. It happens more in a warm climate, when women tend to wear lighter (and therefore more revealing clothes), in areas where there are a lot of bars and/or a holiday atmosphere (ie touristy areas). How a woman moves also plays a big part. The last one dumped me via voice mail by saying," I like you but you're physically unattractive, so, have a good one." In his view. Come on...there are guys out there who think some of the world's top models are ugly. Some have a very fixed picture of what they consider to be beautiful, and any woman who deviates from that picture will be "physically unattractive". And yet, through all this, no one will just confirm that I'm ugly. My friends all roll their eyes and tell me I'm being insecure. The only way somebody would say "you're ugly" would be if they disliked you, wanted to hurt you or thought it was somehow cool to be rude and insulting. In that situation the word "ugly" would be reflective not of you but of what is going on inside of them. The feelings and thoughts they have. Also, if you're overly preoccupied with your appearance then regardless of what you look like, people who want to insult you will do so by focusing on the physical. That's human nature...to look for the Achilles heel and then go for it during conflict. How can this be insecurity?? When can I finally KNOW I'm ugly? And how do I finally accept it? Why would anybody here want to assist you in the pursuit of such a stupid, self-destructive and utterly unhealthy goal? Accepting that you're not in the running for Miss World, but that you are nonetheless an attractive woman would be more positive and realistic. More positive still would be for you to stop obsessing about your looks and start developing more important (and longer lasting) personal qualities. It sounds as though at the moment a huge part of your self esteem is derived from what other people think of your physical appearance. Whether a woman is beautiful or plain, that's a mindset that will lead her towards long term unhappiness.
WhisperinnWinds Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I'm with the others - I was expecting to see a monster after that description! It may well be that the boys were angry with you or they wanted to really cut you deeply - and they knew you were insecure about your looks. Sometimes girls will single out other girls with the 'ugly' crap because they know it's the quickest and deepest way to hurt somebody. Maybe they were jealous? I think that you're attractive. Unless you live in the Hollywood Hills, where you'd be 'ugly' without a bunch of peroxide and fake boobs, you are absolutely fine as you are.
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