NothingButLove Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I just moved to a new city a few months ago. In an effort to meet people outside of work, I joined a couple of Meetup groups. About a week and a half ago, I started talking to this one guy and we decided to meet up a few days later and hang out. We went to a bar and hung out for about 3 hours. He walked me to my car and we said goodbye. Then, he leaned down and kissed me... If it had been a date or some kind of build up, that would've been expected. Up until that point, I really thought we were just hanging out as friends. There was no flirting, no touching, nothing! So, the kiss was a little awkward to say the least. Anyway, I haven't heard from him since then, so I'm going to go ahead and assume he doesn't want anything romantic with me. That being said, is there any way I could turn this into a friendship? I'm not interested in dating anyone until I make some friends here first and he seemed like a nice guy with whom I had at least some things in common. Would it be weird to ask him to hang out sometime?
youngskywalker Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 is there any way I could turn this into a friendship? No. He's shown romantic interest in you. In the near future you either date him or you don't. You can cross the friendship bridge down the road. Be respectful and upfront that you're not interested in him. Most likely, he's not going to be interested in being your friend after that... and least not right away.
Author NothingButLove Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 I don't know. My impression is that if a guy hasn't contacted you within a week, it's pretty much a given that he has no romantic interest.
Shaun-Dro Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I just moved to a new city a few months ago. In an effort to meet people outside of work, I joined a couple of Meetup groups. About a week and a half ago, I started talking to this one guy and we decided to meet up a few days later and hang out. We went to a bar and hung out for about 3 hours. He walked me to my car and we said goodbye. Then, he leaned down and kissed me... If it had been a date or some kind of build up, that would've been expected. Up until that point, I really thought we were just hanging out as friends. There was no flirting, no touching, nothing! So, the kiss was a little awkward to say the least. Anyway, I haven't heard from him since then, so I'm going to go ahead and assume he doesn't want anything romantic with me. That being said, is there any way I could turn this into a friendship? I'm not interested in dating anyone until I make some friends here first and he seemed like a nice guy with whom I had at least some things in common. Would it be weird to ask him to hang out sometime? This guy just kissed you and you're asking us how to turn him into a buddy? You're sending mixed signals. It's very annoying so you need to decide what you really want but I get the feeling he's already decided that fate for you.
Author NothingButLove Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 This guy just kissed you and you're asking us how to turn him into a buddy? You're sending mixed signals. It's very annoying so you need to decide what you really want but I get the feeling he's already decided that fate for you. Yeah, he kissed me and didn't bother to call me after a week and a half. I'm sure he's real heart-broken...
Recommended Posts