lazereye88 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 SO there is this one girl the 2 of us flirt a lot. We tickle each other, intentionally run into each other, thumb wrestle and what not. So last week was my birthday and she came shopping with me and picked an out fit for me like she was my girlfriend. Later that night I got really drunk and locked her arm in mine the entire night, and she did not resist. So 2 days ago we went to an amusement park and we took a pic together and I jokingly say "it looks like I'm grabbing your ass". She look at it and say "it looks like 2 friends taking a pic". Than we start flirting very sexually and I say "by the way if this makes you uncomfortable tell me to stop" and she says "well your just doing it as a friend right?", and I look at her and say "am I?", and that line covo repeats again, immediately. Like she wanted me to confirm if we were friends or not. Than we were standing in line for a ride and she starts talking about the not for profit organization the 2 of us are in. I'm the president of it and I was considering of impeaching one of the VPs and moving her to that position, because she works hard and that guy is lazy as f***. She immediately says "if you do that people will say you did it because you have feeling for me", I just ignore what she said like it was no big deal,and did not really respond to it. So I am not sure what is going on. She is also very hung over her ex, and it looks like he runs her life. But the way she acts around me is like she likes me. This one time she also implyed her ex gets jealous if she hangs out with me. Does she like me or just as friends? and should I have responded when she said "that people will say I did it because I have feeling for her"?
Intergalactic Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 i don't think she feels the same way as you. she probably likes the attention you give her and likes the feeling of being liked (especially if she's broken up with someone recently, it can be a great ego boost) but considering she keeps bringing up the fact that you two are just friends....... i'd say she sees you as just a friend. sorry mate!
carhill Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 OP, you're a distraction; probably a valued one, based on her actions. Since you work together, better to keep things professional IMO. I presume your work relationship predates these latest events substantially. OTOH, you can resolve this simply by asking her out on a date. If you are 'just a friend', that should resolve any behavior you now find to be confusing. Of course, it's very likely the flirting and friendliness will stop too. IME, like a switch. YMMV.
Author lazereye88 Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 i don't think she feels the same way as you. she probably likes the attention you give her and likes the feeling of being liked (especially if she's broken up with someone recently, it can be a great ego boost) but considering she keeps bringing up the fact that you two are just friends....... i'd say she sees you as just a friend. sorry mate! Hey thanks for your response. I thought the same at first than my friends who hang out with me told me there is def something there. When she brought up the friends thing once it was more like a question. The more confusing part was when she claimed I had feeling for her. My friends who seen us hang out say its possible she like you, but she does not want a relationship right away, specially she is still dealing with her ex on a regular bases (when is say regular i mean almost on a daily bases). Is that possible
thatone Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 because the ex isn't an ex. you don't see your ex daily do you?
smudge21 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Stay with it - keep being her friend and flirt back when she does. There's a chance it could develop into more, but then again there's a chance it might not. No one knows. The important thing is to try and keep an open mind and don't fall for her - nothing worse then falling for someone you can't have. Just say to yourself "yeah, this may become something, I'll see where it goes", and continue as you are doing. Just be careful of those emotions, it could end at any point.
Author lazereye88 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 because the ex isn't an ex. you don't see your ex daily do you? They work together, that's why.
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