Not even together but ended "talking" tonight, my god, what a headache!

[ConfusedGuy28]

So I had been talking to this girl from match for the past 3 weeks. SHE contacted me. SHE wanted to talk on the phone. But, anytime I initiated anything, ANYTHING, I was suddenly "too clingy"

 

As an example: It was okay for her to call me last Monday. Talks to me for an hour, and says she'd feel more comfortable if we only texted or emailed for the time being until we met up (supposed to meet this upcoming weekend).

 

It was then okay for her to break the "no calling" rule and call me Wednesday night and lead a 3 hour conversation.

 

It was NOT okay for me to send her a text message on Friday saying "drive safe, hope you have fun down there" (she went out of town for the weekend) and expect her to reply to the message in any fashion

 

It was NOT okay for me to call her Sunday night wanting to talk (she didn't even answer) after she got back and I got back from my own trip.

 

It was NOT okay for me to politely send her a message on facebook yesterday saying "hey, what's up? have you lost interest or something, cuz 6 days NC makes a guy take a big hint lol fb me sometime when you're free, I'm a little busy these next couple of days"

 

But....of course it was OKAY for her to call me tonight. Everything is about her. "Miss Independent" who, even when she is head over heels for a guy in love, only wants to see him once or twice a week - or even every 2 weeks - TOPS. Seriously? She said I was being "unreasonable" and "needy" for expecting her to text me back after SIX DAYS. That she feels "absolutely no attachment" to me or a need to talk to me (yet - whenever she calls me, she talks to me for 1-3 hours every time). Then she starts insulting me (I'm a med student with a lax rotation right now) by saying "well maybe if you were a little more busy like me, or had as many friends as me, you'd realize how hard it is to balance your time sometimes. And I've never met you, so I don't owe you anything" - WOW lol

 

So I said "look, what are we doing talking about this. it's over. you clearly can't even show a basic human response by simply replying to a text message that takes 5 seconds to say 'got in safe, have a nice weekend too.' So - it was nice getting to know you, nice talking to you, good luck with everything, that's it, bye" and hung up on her.

 

if she would have apologized - I may have continued to talk to her. But being that rude for no reason, blowing me off for SIX DAYS (seriously, a ****ing text message isn't me being clingy, WTF) - and then telling me that's how she is in SERIOUS relationships - extremely unattractive. I really never knew sending each other 1 text in 6 days was ever considered being clingy. Cuz, wow. I've been talking to 5 other girls on match (whom all contacted me) - so I'm really not sweating it. I just felt she was incredibly rude on the phone. One girl went NC with me for 4 days, I asked her about it - and she said "omg I'm so sorry. I forgot to tell you I was involved in a wedding with a really good friend of mine. I've just been exhausted at work too lately and need a break. sorry about that. so...etc etc" - NORMAL

 

Good riddance

Edited June 15, 2011 by ConfusedGuy28

[wilsonx]

Oh yea, do not do online dating, it is terrible, I wasted 4 years of my life trying it. NOT ONE GOOD CATCH and I can assure you I went on over 120 dates with different women.

[Trovador]

Some of those annoying "features" were exhibited by my ex, but in the flesh! She called me a dozen times a day (even post break up), any time, any day, without a motive, just for chewing the fat... ah, but I couldn't call her when I wished it, and most times was for stuff really important, because Miss Selfish didn't bother herself to pick the phone or call back later... moreover, after an hour of giberish I suggested to cut the call but she wasn't hearing it... it was when she decided it, always...

 

You dodged a bullet, bro!

[ConfusedGuy28]

LOL tell me about it man. Some real "winners" out here lately. I know exactly how you feel about her wanting to end all the convos. At first I thought it was cute. It felt AMAZING to cut her off mid-sentence, say "that's it" and hang up. LOL. She probably thought "who the **** is this guy to hang up on ME?" HAHA

Edited June 17, 2011 by ConfusedGuy28