harual21 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 So – I was effectively dumped last Friday after a week of “space”. He’s decided he doesn’t want to be in a relationship at the moment as it is too hard to juggle with everything else that is going on in his life. He didn’t have the balls to say it to my face and instead said it via email (@ work) but said he would like to sit down and talk with me. I’ve left him to himself since. He text me on Saturday night apologising for everything and explaining that he doesn’t feel like he is able to handle “us” at this time, but that he is really confused as cares for me and enjoys being in a relationship. I told him I’d rather talk in person than txt or email – he called me Sunday night to reiterate what his txts had said. I asked my questions and then sort of left it…. He then offered to meet up and chat in person, I went with that and we have tentative arrangements to meet later today. He did say that part of the reason for meeting up was to get his stuff from me (small things… ipod… socks… book) – I offered to mail or leave his things somewhere for collection but he still thought it was better to meet up. I haven’t heard from him since Sunday but he initiated a conversation with my best friend on facebook last night to check up on how I am handling the break up. He told her he doesn’t want me to hate him and that he doesn’t want to have a bad break up. Why on earth would he be doing this? I am confused. What is he doing? Why would he want to meet up with me after already ending things? Why is he checking on me via my friends? Seriously!!!!!
Royal Guy Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 (edited) After effects, dumpers have all the time in this world to do all this. Its kind of a normal behaviour from his end. I am nice person, I don't want to hurt you, I want a good break up, I still love you, I will forever love you, please be my friend, I need you to be with me as a friend, is she okay?, etc are common dialogues said by the dumpers. People here often say that to rub the guilt off their face they use the Dumpee as the wipe and enter or keep an eye on the life of dumpee through various ways. I don't want to burst your bubble of hope but its true. I have read so many such stories where they somehow manage to get information regarding dumpees or even contact them back even if the Dumpee is on NC and Dumper is very well aware of it. "Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much. —Oscar Wilde" When you let go off so easily and run into NC mode, the dumpers can't bare it, something keeps them bugging. The feel they bought the smile on your face and if they are not around you are a zombie and they check this and verify this again n again n again. Edited June 15, 2011 by Royal Guy
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