Princess71 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I have asked a guy friend (who I was hoping would be more) to go for a drink either this past weekend or one day this week. I asked this thru email. He replied back that he's busy this weekend but that maybe next week will work and that he'll let me know soon. So its Tuesday nite and I have heard nothing and therefore don't think i will be hearing anything because he's going away on Friday and I don't think he'd want to see me Thursday because it is a bit of a hike to get here and he will be driving all day Friday. My question is: should I be angry that he never got back to me?? I feel annoyed but maybe I'm being too sensitive because I like him so much. Did my request require an answer back to me if the answer is no??
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I don't mean to mean but it sounds like he's just not into you. If a chick that I was interested in asked me out, I would drop whatever I was doing to comply.
Author Princess71 Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 Thanks for responding I realize he is brushing me off, but I do think he will contact me in the future because we are friends. At this point I feel like cutting him out of my life completely and ignoring his next attempt to contact me. All he had to do was write an email saying he couldn't make it. Would that be so hard? Isn't not responding to me worse if he just doesn't want to hurt me?
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Quite honestly it just sounds like it slipped his mind. I don't know if that's what you want to hear because it means you're not important enough to him for him to remember. But on the other hand he's not purposely being hurtful. I know the feeling -- I'll often wait for days/weeks for my addiction to contact me but I'm pretty sure while I'm sitting there thinking about her 24/7 she probably hasn't even thought about me once.
Author Princess71 Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 I highly doubt he forgot. My question is did he disrespect me by not following thru and letting me know he couldn't make it? Why would it be hard to write a small email letting me know? Or is it implied that he would only contact me if he wants to see me? He said I'll let u know soon. How would you take that?
musemaj11 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 He probably didnt know what to do. Most guys dont have a lot of experience rejecting someone so they have no clue how. Once a girl I got close with at college at the end of the school year sent me a FB message asking me out. But I didnt see her as more than a really good friend and I didnt know what to do since I never had a girl asking me out so directly before. So what I did was I pretended to never saw the message. I know thats really stupid but I was really clueless at that time.
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 He probably didnt know what to do. Most guys dont have a lot of experience rejecting someone so they have no clue how. It's not often that I agree with you, but this is a definitely possibility!
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I'm almost 100% sure it was not important enough for him to remember. Like when someone that's not really important to me asks me out for a drink and I'm busy, I'll try to push off to another day and then of course a hundred other things come up between now and then and I forget to follow up. While it seems to you to be the most important thing in the world since you're addicted to him, it doesn't feel same way to him since you're probably priority #63 in his life and he's got 62 other things on his mind ahead of you.
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