cccrunner Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 A year back i met a great girl and we started talking. She live two hours away from my house but about ten from my college. We are both in college and not sure if long distance is the right thing to do. However, we started dating. After about four months we broke up b/c i realized that i couldnt date her unless we saw each other more. We still keep in touch and still have feelings for each other. Heres where it gets tricky :/ I do not know how i feel about her and have kissed several girls after we broke up and i even kissed one when we dated. (I was drunk but i know thats no excuse) i feel horrible b/c i have no idea what to do. Ive been horrible to her and i definitely dont deserve her. I dont know if i like her enough to date in an ldr, esp. when we dont see each other much. Moreover, i dont know if i can see a future with her, and i dont think i can marry her b/c as awful as it seems, she doesnt fit my idea of the girl who i want to marry (shes blonde i wanna marry a brunette). But she is the only girl who ever has wanted to date me and im not sure if ill find anyone else who i love (i do love her) as much as i am with her. I dont want to miss out on a girl who is incredible, but im not even sure if i could date her long distance or if i see a future with her. Im not sure if i could have a future with her, but i dont want to miss out on a girl who cares about me. Not too many girls like me or want to date me, so i dont wanna ruin my chance with an amazing girl, i just dont know if i could marry her or have a ldr with her. I dont want her to be the one that got away, but i dont think if shes the one for me. Please help.
Whipple Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 A year back i met a great girl and we started talking. She live two hours away from my house but about ten from my college. We are both in college and not sure if long distance is the right thing to do. However, we started dating. After about four months we broke up b/c i realized that i couldnt date her unless we saw each other more. We still keep in touch and still have feelings for each other. Heres where it gets tricky :/ I do not know how i feel about her and have kissed several girls after we broke up and i even kissed one when we dated. (I was drunk but i know thats no excuse) i feel horrible b/c i have no idea what to do. Ive been horrible to her and i definitely dont deserve her. I dont know if i like her enough to date in an ldr, esp. when we dont see each other much. Moreover, i dont know if i can see a future with her, and i dont think i can marry her b/c as awful as it seems, she doesnt fit my idea of the girl who i want to marry (shes blonde i wanna marry a brunette). But she is the only girl who ever has wanted to date me and im not sure if ill find anyone else who i love (i do love her) as much as i am with her. I dont want to miss out on a girl who is incredible, but im not even sure if i could date her long distance or if i see a future with her. Im not sure if i could have a future with her, but i dont want to miss out on a girl who cares about me. Not too many girls like me or want to date me, so i dont wanna ruin my chance with an amazing girl, i just dont know if i could marry her or have a ldr with her. I dont want her to be the one that got away, but i dont think if shes the one for me. Please help.When it comes down to it, if you're going to be doubting your feelings so much, you shouldn't date her. Who cares if she's the only girl who has had liked you? You'll find ones that care about you in the future. But right now, if you really can't see yourself with her, you should let her go so she can find someone who truly loves her rather than someone who keeps her around without any sincere feelings. I've been in that girl's shoes before and it sucks.
Author cccrunner Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 Don't get me wrong I do have sincere feelings for her. I do like her, but I don't think I like her enough for a ldr, but I'm worried that she could become the one who got away
Whipple Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Don't get me wrong I do have sincere feelings for her. I do like her, but I don't think I like her enough for a ldr, but I'm worried that she could become the one who got awayIn my opinion, she isn't "the one" if you don't like her enough for an LDR. If she "gets away" then she wasn't "the one" to begin with. But again, that's my opinion. However, if you don't like her enough for an LDR, then don't do it. Let her find someone else who would like her enough for an LDR. Perhaps you'll find this thread interesting.
creighton0123 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 If you don't like her enough to be in an LDR, you more or less don't like her enough for a relationship. Move on. Date someone that you're more attracted to - brunettes in this case (hey, can't help what and who you find attractive ;-) ). When the time comes, you'll meet someone and things will juts feel easy and right.
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