wilsonx Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I broke NC with her Saturday because I was lonely and drunk and she came over and I talked to her and told her she betrayed me twice blah blah blah I had to vent my feelings.. It was ****ing dumb and my friend Kelsey slapped me for doing it. OK I had to break No Contact today because we had to schedule a date to pull her name off the lease of the apartment. Was friendly... Can you meet up Friday 2-230pm Thanks... in an email she responded np she texted me just now asking if I had an external hard drive for her to borrow UGH... IM resisting.. **** she breaks up with me and wants my help
learned76 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I hear ya!!! I feel stupid. My ex just txt'd me after I maintained 1 week of no contact. *slaps forehead* Granted, I wanted to talk to her every day, but was feeling confident about no contact. Anyway, she wanted to see if the original case to her phone was in my car in a compartment only she used (that I had neglected to check when I was gethering all her stuff to give to her when we split up). She needs to return the phone as she got an upgrade, or risk losing money. Anyway - it turns out it wasn't in my car, go figure. I now don't think it ever was. Then she stated that she wanted to take care of my cat while I'm gone on a business trip and that she's soooo sad she didn't get to hold him, etc." I fell into the breadcrumb BS that I know I shouldn't have. I even went so far as to say "It was nice you contacted me, even if it was just to get something from me." I was being sarcastic, but she sent a smiley face anyway. Now I feel used again. Just to help her alleve some of her own crap ass guilt. What an idiot.
Author wilsonx Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 I left it alone, she has massive GIGS, she jumped from one relationship to another besides the 6 months in between our relationship and her rebound. She actually dumped me for 2 months to hook up with a friend and then came back to me after then I am completely in total hell right now and everything in my brain tells me to just walk away and let it be
learned76 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Yeah, I think you should do just that. I need to do the same thing. Mine also had GIGS. Less than a week after we broke up, she told me she's already interested in another guy. Then, a week after that, she txt's me something stupid, really just to alleve herself of some guilt no doubt. I don't get it, and honestly at this point, it just made me feel used and now I resent it. Stay strong and move on. It's got to get better soon.
Author wilsonx Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 yea my ex left me for a 37 year old guy... lol yah thats gonna last long
Author wilsonx Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 homebrew... i respect that older guys have more resources to offer... This guy is a coworker and is a cook at a movie theater... he lives in a trailer... the only thing he has to offer is his bad boy attitude... Thats why I have a feeling I am going to be my own rebound
Author wilsonx Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 Oh, I get it now.... She is a "dumper diver". whats a dumper diver lol?
ler1638 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 My ex keeps coming in and out of my life...I told him the other night that in order to move on he had to stop contacting me randomly. He said he would respect that and never talk to me again and I wake up this morning to a text from him saying, "u awake?" ughhhh I never wanna lose him forever but I wish he would just leave me be so that my wounds can heel. I didnt text back this morning but I am so tempted to because he has that affect on me and now Im also just curious to see what he wanted.
Author wilsonx Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 yea it sucks, i think they (ex's) realize they made a mistake and are trying to string us along and I do not want to be strung along anymore, I want control of my life back and am working on doing that. We took a break in Feb because of problems but it wasnt enough time to heal and try again
victoriaaa Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 my ex wont dissapear either. he frequently texts me at 5am as he is nocturnal. the other night, once at 1am begging me to come online then again at 3am.then 5 texts at 5am saying how much he likes me and want to be friends. great! i get annoyed and say no. every day he will find some stupid excuse to contact me yet he wont take me back. its been 5 weeks now and there has only been 2 days where i havnt heard from him. thinking of changing my number. now hes asking for naked pics what a creep! he tries to have 5 hour chats online and begs me to stay up later. lots of breadcrumbs but is hard not to fall for it.
TaraMaiden Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Rubbish. You respond because you want to. It's not hard at all. Turn your 'phone off at night, take your home land-line phone off the hook, or program it on silent overnight (we have one that can do this) and switch of your computer. Good night, sleep well..... And stay NC.
victoriaaa Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 i know its my own fault. i have just been on a self help book spree and am determined to go nc. nothing he has to say can help me anyway. hes needy and just likes a back up plan
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