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I met my wife through facebook. The first time we met in person, we had sex. We had sex many other times after that, until I got her pregnant. A few months before she gave birth she quit her job without involving me in that decision. A month before she went into labour we got married.

 

From the start, we had huge challenges mostly from the financial burden I had to carry while I was expected to cater to the emotional needs of the family. This impacted on our sex life, and since my wife is moody and extremely sensitive, I ended up making cyber friends and flirting with other women online and on the phone. Inevitably I was caught out a number of times. I have never met any of these women in person to have sex with them or do anything else.

 

The one woman that has caused a lot of trouble is someone I met at a graduation, and we kept contact. I fell in love with her over time, and if distance was not between us, I would have slept with her.

 

I am at a stage where I am not sure if I still love my wife. She has told me she is not in love with me, and has lost all respect for me (understandably so). I have not had sex with my wife for over 2 months now, and the last times we had sex it was not great. I think I am only here only for my 2 year old daughter's sake.

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I met my wife through facebook. The first time we met in person, we had sex. We had sex many other times after that, until I got her pregnant. A few months before she gave birth she quit her job without involving me in that decision. A month before she went into labour we got married.

 

From the start, we had huge challenges mostly from the financial burden I had to carry while I was expected to cater to the emotional needs of the family. This impacted on our sex life, and since my wife is moody and extremely sensitive, I ended up making cyber friends and flirting with other women online and on the phone. Inevitably I was caught out a number of times. I have never met any of these women in person to have sex with them or do anything else.

 

The one woman that has caused a lot of trouble is someone I met at a graduation, and we kept contact. I fell in love with her over time, and if distance was not between us, I would have slept with her.

 

I am at a stage where I am not sure if I still love my wife. She has told me she is not in love with me, and has lost all respect for me (understandably so). I have not had sex with my wife for over 2 months now, and the last times we had sex it was not great. I think I am only here only for my 2 year old daughter's sake.

 

You sound like your not ready to be a husband yet and like to play the field some more. Now you have a child and wife that doesn't love you or trust you. I would stop looking for other women online as they're have their issues too.

 

You know the story fix your house problem before go looking for more fresh fruits in the open sea!

 

Take care of your wife and kid first. Make it work if you can. I would do that as that's what you were after first.

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you are right when you say I was not ready to be a husband. I thought I was. Fact is now I am in it, so what do I do? I can't be playin the field my whole life. I feel I need some time to myself. for some time.

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How does your wife feel about all of this, i.e. does she want a divorce, or does she want to try and work it out for the sake of your child?

 

Although it is usually better for the child to have both parents together, there IS a saying that is smart to follow: "children would rather BE from a broken home than be LIVING in a broken home."

 

If you truly do feel as though you and your wife have no chance of working it out, then the best thing you can do is to get your divorce but remain on peaceful and agreeable terms for your child when it comes to such issues as parenting.

 

I hope this helps, and best of luck in your situation.

 

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www.prepyourdivorce.com

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you are right when you say I was not ready to be a husband. I thought I was. Fact is now I am in it, so what do I do? I can't be playin the field my whole life. I feel I need some time to myself. for some time.

 

Yes some men are players and still up into their 70's and married. Most of these wives don't care. But you're young with a wife and child. The urge is strong with you to find another one and another one. You might not even stopped doing it. I've seen others like you before.

 

Even with my in-laws we have one who has 3 kids and his wife cheated on him so now he's heavy player with 1, 2, 3, 4 women all over the town he's in. Brags about it to his father another player with 15 kids. But he's still going and won't stop doing it now he's in his 40s and still going! He don't work and why should he these women he has pays his way.

 

Now your have one kid and married. You could leave this wife and move on and be free to grab more women online to chat and met and do what you want. And you don't want to father all these new children if you get them knocked up as we use say.

 

I am sure you don't want a life like this. As you seem to be hinting at? Are you welling to make good with your wife and kid or just want to get out of it? You got to think about that once you make that move there is not way to turning back.

 

Take the current wife out to dinner with your child and talk things out other wise man you need to chill what your doing!

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