Heidixx Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Hello people! Just going to throw this out there. '''''Does sleeping with your ex (aka FWB) make your life a misery if you still do love him/her?'''' I know that it seems obvious that it won't, but has it ever worked for anyone? I am a young female who recently broke up with ex. He has expressed interest in having this kind of a relationship but admitted he is worried that the spark will come back if we do this. So, I am not sure where to go from here. I want to, because it will be fun and I clearly miss him. But I am not sure if I should pursue it because I may get hurt. Would anybody here risk it?
flitzanu Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 um, wow, so he gets to sleep with you and not have to deal with a relationship? sounds like a pretty great situation for him. sex and no commitment to you!!
Author Heidixx Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 I know, it works out well for him. But also for me. But will he lose respect for me if I do this? From what I have gathered, he will. I wonder if there is a problem with society and gender roles sometimes. If I want to sleep with my ex then it appears that I have no respect for myself. But he just seems like a 'lucky man' who gets free sex as such. High five him! Why would any man turn down sex? But I end up looking like a used fragile woman as I am female. I am mainly worried about losing respect from him. I have a lot of respect for myself and he knows that but after this it may change. I am still into him and like the idea of sleeping with him again. But I need to make sure he will still respect me. Any thoughts?
Author Heidixx Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 I am aware that men sleep with two types of women. The first kind are women they want to f###. These are women they use to fill the time before they meet the second type of woman. The second kind is a woman the man wants to date. Clearly that was me for a long time. I don't want to be the first option. I think he will view me as the 1st kind of I do this with him. Gosh, life is hard as a woman. He ends up wining either way.
Author Heidixx Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 I agree. I just needed to see it in writing. If he mentions it or asks me again how should I respond?
flitzanu Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 so you say, two types, 1. to bang, 2. to date. simple question then, is, are you dating him? NO, you're not dating him. simple logic then tells you...you're #1. a girl to bang until he finds a new girl to date.
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