snowey81 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 First off.. I am 29 and live in Canada and he is 40 from the UK. We met in a penpal website in Oct 2008. We met officially in May 09 and it was amazing. I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I am divorced with 2 young kids. He has been here a total of 5 times so far and i've been to visit him and his family 4 times. Last september we really wanted to close this distance and he sold everything and came for 6 months. During that time he had no money besides the little bit he brought with him. He stayed until March and then had to leave. This is where the conflict started. I was originally supposed to go with him, as there was a big family party, but money got in the way and I couldn't go. He really wanted me to come later, so we decided to spend the money and have me visit his family in May. I was really really leery about this because neither of us have alot of money and I didn't want my visit to delay him coming back here, especially after building a bond with the kids for 6 months.. He kept reassuring me that it would be fine and he wouldn't let me come if he didn't think he could get back quickly. Well, I went and had a great time.. He's a webdesigner and was building an online Entertainment Agency. While he was here he barely worked on it and it was a source of huge arguments for us. Now, i'm back in Canada.. and he's in the UK and we're both broke. There is still no website up and he has no idea when he'll be able to get back. To make it worse, my 30th birthday is next month and theres a huge possibilty that i'll be celebrating it alone. Does anyone have any advice?? How long do I wait?? I'm having a very very hard time with this separation this time.. I love him so much and don't want to end it but I can't wait forever.. I am so frustrated.. HELP!!!
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