Matt1988 Posted April 18, 2004 Posted April 18, 2004 Ok, I'm not sure if this is a complicated problem or just complicated for me. And, before I go too far into the topic I want everybody to know that I am only 15. Ok, there is this girl that I've liked for almost a year now. Just yesterday, we had our first date to the movies and then to a restaurant. We're both shy, but I'm sort of a wreck. I see her at school every day, she sits in the front of the room. I think I've fallen in love with her. I'm not talking about boyfriend/girlfriend love that can melt away like the rising and setting sun, I think I'm *really* in love. I cherish every moment I get to see her, even if all I see is her beautiful hair while I'm watching from the back of the class. I've never had any experience with dating or relationships for that matter. With these circumstances in mind, you might be able to paint a picture of how incredibly nervous and anxious I was when I first asked her out. She's Mexican and I'm white. Sometimes I think we're from two different worlds. She's always calm-looking when I see her, never nervous or anxious from what I can tell. When I see her, I'm ALWAYS nervous but try my best to keep calm enough to talk. When I asked her out, she said yes and gave me her number. Now she's all I think about. Would she really agree to dinner and a movie if she didn't like me? Sometimes I wonder because of her seeming inability to show emotion. I don't think I've got an anxiety problem because I can talk freely around other girls, but not around her. My mind goes blank, and my heart accelerates to an incomprehensible level. Maybe I'm just rambling on, I'm a total wreck. Help?
average guy Posted April 18, 2004 Posted April 18, 2004 Hey Matt1988, It sounds like you are definately infatuated with her. Love is a different thing - you have to know a person first I would definately say continue on dating her and see if it does develop in "true love", which I hope it does, but just remember, not many people who date in high school continue dating all their life (I've never met anyone who met in high school who are still together) so enjoy the moment while you can As for your anxiety - try and do some deep breathing, and maybe if you visualise how the date will go beforehand, you'll feel more relaxed (almost like you've been there before) on the actual date. Otherwise do'nt stress - just relax and don't worry that you'll say or do the wrong thing, because if she really does like you, she still like you even if you make a few social fox-paws (mistakes) best of luck, and let us know how it goes ... Cheers A.G.
moimeme Posted April 18, 2004 Posted April 18, 2004 fox-paws Just for future reference, it's faux pas (pronounced foh pah)
average guy Posted April 18, 2004 Posted April 18, 2004 Thanks moimeme I did know that but it's just one of those personal quirks I have to say fox paws now ever since I came across this cartoon at: http://www.ozfoxes.com/fauxpas.htm Cheers
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