toungeofcolicab Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I realise i have just joined this forum , but i hope you can understand im in need of a bit of advice. Although some of these things may have been started on this forum prior, (i apologise if they have) i just need my own take on this . Im 2-3 weeks away from turning 21. In Australia ,we can obviously go to night clubs at the age of 18 (and thank god for that), however im having a bit of a dilemma personally. About a year and a half back, me and my then girlfriend decided to go our seperate ways from our 3 year relationship. It took me obviously a good portion of time (around 6 months) to get over it ,but i got back on my feet. It's now a year and a half later and i believe i've found myself to have a bit of a crisis so to speak. I have not been on a date with a girl in over a year, and haven't had sex in just as long as amount of time. I don't find myself talking to females anymore (bar my female friends which there is a few) and although i would be interested in a few females at the moment i just have no way of approaching or talking to them . Now i know im not bad looking wise and there is more to me that meets the eye, and i know i can be a solid catch for a female out of there, my question is how do i go about it ? As stated im nearing the age of 21, im in my 3rd year as a Law and Economics Student at the most prestigious university in Australia , I used to be a model for a number of national designer fashion catalouges (high end) and now i find myself in a dilemma, where i just feel that no partner or even casual fling is in sight. How should i go about it ? and what would other people's advice be. I do to go clubs quite often, and i find females looking at me, but that's where it ends. I don't have that many male friends either, so it im a bit of a difficult situation. Thank you in advance all you fantastic people.
Intergalactic Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 hello fellow mate from the land down under! why is it that you say "it ends" when you see girls looking at you and that's it? have you been interested in any of the girls checking you out? if you are, just go and say hello! they may be intimidated if you are good looking (god knows i am around a good looking guy) because, especially out at clubs and in the cities, there are manyyyy amazing looking girls, so they might just think you won't be interested. yes, they should say hello to you if they are interested... but they're not posting on here so i can't advise them! but next time you see a girl who catches your eye, go say hello. it's highly unlikely she won't at least talk to you (i never ignore guys who try to talk to me in clubs, it's brave of them! plus, if she does ignore you then you know she's not worth it right off the bat, how rude), and after a chat you'll get the vibe of whether she's into you or not, and if she is, whether she's looking for a one night thing or something more. and hey, if it doesn't work with one girl, move on to the next!
Author toungeofcolicab Posted June 15, 2011 Author Posted June 15, 2011 Thank you very much, but do you think it could be a confidence problem ?
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