jh2586 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Hello loveshack community. I'm new here with this being my third post. Here is my question, and I'm sure this has been asked many times on here. Here's my situation.. I recently met a girl from an online dating website. We've been talking for about 3 months now. We talk in facebook, phone and Skype very often. We really click with each other and I can tell that this can potentially go somewhere. The problem is, I'm 6,000 miles away until Feb 2012. We're not even in a relationship yet, nor have we ever met. So here's the question.. do you think it's worth trying for or is it a lost cause? I mean, a lot can happen in 8 months especially since I'm not there to be with her. She also has a 1 year old son who is simply amazing. It's hard too because when I come home I'll continue to live the military life which includes moving around a lot. I just don't want to get hurt by waiting patiently for me to come home only to find out that either she's lost interest in me or has found someone else.
crazylove Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Hello, and welcome to Loveshack! Well, I think you get on well, there's no reason why you shouldn't continue to carry on writing and see where it goes. You both seem to be enjoying each other:) Just go at it as you would a friendship and who knows what the future will bring. Go with the flow:) In my experience, women pen pals usually disappear (and men for that matter!), or contact gets less if they find someone, so i'm sure it'll be pretty obvious if that happens. Just enjoy the moment:)
creighton0123 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 She won't be the first or the last person to date a traveling soldier. It's a risk. Feb 2012 is not really that long of a time IF Feb 2012 was the end of the LDR. It is, however, quite a bit of commitment to ask someone you met through an online dating service since both of you, despite talking over facebook/phone/Skype, are still essentially strangers to one another - that is lacking in history enough to say that you are both interested and willing to commit to a long distance relationship with an open-ended end date. From what I've heard, the military doesn't extend extra treatment to romantic partners - only to spouses. You don't want to risk getting hurt. That's understandable, but a risk everyone takes despite what kind of relationship they're in.
Author jh2586 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 We've been talking a lot still. Two nights ago she told me that she's starting to "fall for me" and she also said that she didn't intend to and she's afraid that I might break her heart. Seems like we both feel the same way about taking this risk.
Recommended Posts