redorchid Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I'm new to this forum... and I'd like some advice I guess I would say this is my first longer relationship (7months so far). We are both 21. I was "seeing" (not exclusively dating) someone before we got together. I broke the former relationship off because for my current boyfriend. (I have no feelings left for the former.) When we started dating he had a lot of insecurities, probably stemming from how we got together. He often asked me why I was even with him. It was sweet at first, but he often became very depressed... and worried that I would cheat on him. I kept telling him I wouldn't ever do that. Ironically, I kept dreaming that I was cheating on him. Initially, I felt guilty in the dreams; and the people I was with in the dream were anonymous. However, when we went through rough patches, I dreamed of the previous guy I was with. The bad part is that there was that there was no guilt involved. In reality, I don't think I would ever cheat on my boyfriend. A couple of months ago, I dreamed of cheating again... but this time I kissed a good friend in the dream. My bf knows this guy, and knows that I highly respect him. To be honest, I may have a small crush. My boyfriend has really toned down the insecurity issues, but continues to be extremely sensitive. He throws tantrums over not paying enough attention to him while on the phone... He'll randomly hang up, not answer my phone calls for 2 days, and then cry when I finally get to talk to him. He's a bit of a girl. It's cute to me, but he can PMS pretty badly too... (a little annoying) I want to be open with him and tell him about the dreams, but I'm worried that it will make him insecure. I'm also confused because I realize the spark has died out by now. I'm feeling a little distant, but I want to keep this relationship going. I'm his first love, and he constantly says hows much I mean to him. I want to talk to him about the issue without breaking his heart. What do you think I should do? How should I approach it?
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