EasyHeart Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Glad to see you paying attention, or is it just that you don't have any hot teachers this semester? Good luck with this girl. Just talk to her the same way you would talk to a friend... ask how she is, what she did at the weekend, what she's doing this weekend, would she like to get a coffee with you after class and talk about your assignment. Listen to what she says and how she says it. Pay attention to body language. You might get clues about whether she wants to be your friend.This is good advice. I'd start with things you have in common -- like the reading or homework in class. Just treat her like you would any other friend in order to get some conversation going. After you've talked to her about school a few times, it's okay to broaden the conversation to other things, like hobbies or what you did over the weekend. Don't text her and don't push things too fast. And don't ask questions like "How are you doing?" or "What's up?" The answers are "Okay" and "Not much", and then the conversation is over.
RovingReporter Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 What are you waiting for man? Schools almost over and she might get snatched up. The key to getting the girl is persistence. In other words, don't take no for an answer. Doesn't reply to a text ? Call her. Goes to voicemail? Wait outside her house and confront her. Girls like to feel desired and special which is commonly referred to as "playing hard to get". I can tell by the way she's coyly dodging your texts that she wants you to pursue her even harder. Take my advice, some women get off on the chase. Hang in there bro! Don't give up.
grkBoy Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 What are you waiting for man? Schools almost over and she might get snatched up. The key to getting the girl is persistence. In other words, don't take no for an answer. Doesn't reply to a text ? Call her. Goes to voicemail? Wait outside her house and confront her. Girls like to feel desired and special which is commonly referred to as "playing hard to get". I can tell by the way she's coyly dodging your texts that she wants you to pursue her even harder. Take my advice, some women get off on the chase. Hang in there bro! Don't give up. "Some" Only women I've seen who get off on it are the ones who see the guy as "maybe" and said girls are low on self-esteem. I'm not condemning your advice, because many women do like ambition and confidence...but I also think the women who need to be "chased" are not worth a man's time. Maybe I'm different, but I'm of the mind that a man should not hand over his spine and balls when pursuing a woman. Show confidence, interest, and a laid-back sense of life...but don't come off as needy or "hungry". I've seen more women get into a guy who seemingly shows he doesn't "need" her, thus she thinks there is value in the guy because he's not chasing her like a horny dog. Some women do get off on the "chase", but as I've said, I notice they're the low self-esteem ones who seemingly constantly get into bad RLs with jerks. My own experiences have shown me the ones who really want that "chase" are the same ones who are now hitting their 30s, been pumped and dumped a load of times, and are constantly lamenting on how there are no "decent guys" out there. If a woman needs a storybook/drama "chase" then move on. Let her crazy games make her the bridesmaid in a dozen weddings, but never the bride.
Trimmer Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 What are you waiting for man? Schools almost over and she might get snatched up. The key to getting the girl is persistence. In other words, don't take no for an answer. Doesn't reply to a text ? Call her. Goes to voicemail? Wait outside her house and confront her. Girls like to feel desired and special which is commonly referred to as "playing hard to get". I can tell by the way she's coyly dodging your texts that she wants you to pursue her even harder. Take my advice, some women get off on the chase. Hang in there bro! Don't give up. Really? Are you familiar with any of this poster's history and lack of ability to recognize appropriate boundaries and indications to stop a "pursuit?" And you are telling him to wait outside her house and confront her? He probably doesn't get sarcasm, either, if that's what it was. Not funny pushing him toward a problem he's already got...
Author one goal Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 should I maybe ask her out like 3 weeks from now?
Afishwithabike Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 What are you waiting for man? Schools almost over and she might get snatched up. The key to getting the girl is persistence. In other words, don't take no for an answer. Doesn't reply to a text ? Call her. Goes to voicemail? Wait outside her house and confront her. Girls like to feel desired and special which is commonly referred to as "playing hard to get". I can tell by the way she's coyly dodging your texts that she wants you to pursue her even harder. Take my advice, some women get off on the chase. Hang in there bro! Don't give up. I hope you're joking. The OP has major issues with boundaries and your post does not help him. He's gotten in trouble in the past because of his inability to accept "no" for an answer.
RovingReporter Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Of course I was being sarcastic. Don't wait outside her house OP! You might think about getting her name tattooed on your face. I think she would really like that.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I joke around here a lot - but this is sincere. onegoal - do you acknowledge that you have very, very serious issues with boundaries and your behavior around them? So far, I have not noticed you acknowledging this. People with boundary issues need companionship like anyone else, but unless you are absolutely ready and willing to OWN that you have them, and follow strict guidelines for how to deal with them, and with women you're interested in with regards to boundaries ... then, you are not ready to date ANYONE. Even your comment "I want to bone her" was creepy and out of line. Of course, people often "want to bone" those they're interested in dating - but it's not a very promising starting point with a new girl, especially with your history. What are you doing about your own boundary issues in your life, right now? Are you in any kind of therapy or on medication? Are you tired yet of being shut out of any social situation you try to join?
oaks Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 should I maybe ask her out like 3 weeks from now? I don't understand what you hope to achieve by having a countdown for when you're going to ask her out. What are you going to do in those 3 weeks (other than pester us with questions about what to say)? What's wrong with talking to her and asking her out next time you see her in class?
Author one goal Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 I don't understand what you hope to achieve by having a countdown for when you're going to ask her out. What are you going to do in those 3 weeks (other than pester us with questions about what to say)? What's wrong with talking to her and asking her out next time you see her in class? Because ive only talked to her a couple times before and dont even know her yet.
welikeincrowds Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Because ive only talked to her a couple times before and dont even know her yet. what do you suppose is the purpose of a first date?
Shaun-Dro Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 (edited) How should I ask her out when the time comes? By text? Aren't you the nut that chased the teacher around like a puppy dog? Oh boy. Edited June 18, 2011 by Shaun-Dro missed a word
oaks Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Because ive only talked to her a couple times before and dont even know her yet. She doesn't know you yet either. Get in there quick.
Trimmer Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Aren't you the nut that chased the teacher around like a puppy dog? Oh boy. ... and the "hot girl at work" who had a boyfriend ... and the usher at the hockey arena who sent security down on him ... and the cute girl in his class who had a boyfriend ... and the country singer....
LexiB Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 This is so completely spot on it bears repeating [stealing] from another thread: This is how your threads go: You're interested in someone, but you don't know what to say or how to ask her out... People take time to give legitimate advice, which you ignore, say didn't work or just keep asking followup questions every few hours once the thread has gone farther down the page... Eventually, the thread deteriorates into people saying you're clueless and/or a stalker... You disappear for a while then the cycle repeats. Sheer insanity!
RoseBloodSweet Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 I hope she never ends up with the likes of you. You just want to bone her? It sounds like you lack morals and communication skills!
Author one goal Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 what do you suppose is the purpose of a first date? but usually you get to know someone first before asking them out.
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 but usually you get to know someone first before asking them out. Do you? How well is that strategy working for you so far?
Author one goal Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 Do you? How well is that strategy working for you so far? not well. So you say I should just go ahead and ask her out soon?
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 not well. So you say I should just go ahead and ask her out soon? Not just soon. Next time you see her, like I said on page 3. When is your next class with her? Ask her out then.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Not just soon. Next time you see her, like I said on page 3. When is your next class with her? Ask her out then. If she says "yes," go, have a good time and try to actually pay attention to her and get to know what kind of a person she is. In case she declines, then FORGET ABOUT HER and find another girl you're interested in asking out. Yes, for some people persistence will pay off. You're not one of them. YOU need to learn to go away when a person of interest says "no" to you, even if you don't believe that they really mean it.
Dorie Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 ... and the "hot girl at work" who had a boyfriend ... and the usher at the hockey arena who sent security down on him ... and the cute girl in his class who had a boyfriend ... and the country singer.... Now isn't this disturbing.
Author one goal Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 I just don't want to scare her off for coming on too strong too fast.
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 I just don't want to scare her off for coming on too strong too fast. Well that's all the advice I've got for you until you try it. Sorry.
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