moonlight2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 First of all, I want to apologize for my English, since it's not my first language. I'll try my best... ;-) In February I met a man, who asked me for my phonenumber. He gave me the impression that he is seriously interested in getting to know me in the beginning. We met us several times and than were in a relationship for a few weeks. Over time I realized that his efforts were far less than in the beginning. He delayed meetings, didn't call me and so on. As this become clear to me, I began to cling, I'm afraid. I asked for meetings, called him nearly everyday, tried to be very nice and missed to define my bounderies... Than I decided to ask him what the problem is. His reaction was that he wants to break up immediately, but I convinced him not to do so and to give us a chance. The following days his efforts were as little as before and I became more and more desperate, because I felt that he wants to break up soon, but I tried not to show. Last Monday he told me that he sees no future for our relationship, that he has not enough time for a relationship, because work is so stressfull, that he would hurt me in a few months anyway and so on. He said so many different reasons for him breaking up with me.... that was absolutly confusing to me. However, I reacted very cool and said that this is okay for me. Than he answered angrily "wow, you seem to take the easy way out". The next days I did several things wrong, that showed him that my coolness was a fake. To get out of this vicious circle and become calm, I asked him for a last face-to-face-meeting. I tried to be cool again, but he said he knows that I'm not as cool as I try to be. He told me that he adheres to his decision, but he wants to stay in contact with me. So, this meeting was three days ago and we didn't have any contact afterwards. Now my question is, how should I introduce the NC? Are we already in the NC? It seems ridiculous to me, if I give him a piece of paper now, which says that I want NC. But if I do not so, is it a real NC, that conveys him, that I don't need him any longer? How should I react, if he calls me and wants to meet me? THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR ADVICE!!! :-)
Reoreyh Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I regret telling my ex that I was doing NC. I would just ignore him every time he makes contact with you.
Author moonlight2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 Actually I'm not sure if I want him back anyway. But I've three important assignments in the near future and that is the reason why I need to get over him as soon as possible. The NC seems the best solution for me. I have to get him out of my mind... Perhaps anyone could email me the report "The magic of making up", too. Maybe this could help me... :-( [email protected]
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