justagirrl Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 A few days ago, my ex and I were texting...just having a normal conversation and out of nowhere i get a media message... I listen to it, and it's a song he wrote singing with his guitar. The lyrics: Sometimes I feel like I'm lost, and I cry. Feels like so much time has passed me by. This world it caving in yeah, you were right. Sometimes it gets so hard for me to let you be by my side, will you keep my hope alive? Cause there's no love like the first time, Girl your eyes, cut deep inside. I can feel your touch, as I'm laying here at night It's dark outside, but when I try to see girl, you're stuck in my mind. There's no love like the first time... _____________________________________ Why would he do that to me? ....all i said was that's really nice I honestly think he's messing with my head. Why on earth would you send me that song?
Kilty Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 From skimming over your previous posts (havent read in full sorry) but if i have got it right your relationship with your ex is over because he doesnt want anything committed, only wants to be friends or FWB ? If this is hurting you then why are you still in constant contact with your ex when just about every piece of advice on here for that type of situation is for No Contact ? Bottom line is that if you have no contact he wont be able to mess with your head - period. If you have agreed to be just friends then the only way that will work is if you are both totally indifferent to each other and therefore there would be no flirting or lovey dovey texts, emails, songs etc etc etc. And as it appears that is not the case on your part you are only heading for further heartbreak unless he completely changes and wants a committed relationship
sun_moon Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Hi Justagirrl, Your back, I'm surprised. I assumed you either: a. Ignored the unanimous advice and stayed in limbo with this guy and left LS b. You went NC and left LS to clear your head and forget So I guess the answer is A. Why are you letting him waste more of your precious time, he's so not worth it. The song is nice but it really sounds like he's trying to get to you so he can get what he wants out of you then go back to ignoring you. What a douche he is.
geegirl Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 What does it meeeeaaaaannnn!!!!!???? It means that he sent you a song. That's all. It's a big mind f***. If he can write a heartfelt song, he can say the heartfelt words he feels inside for you if he wants you back. Unless he's upfront, saying to you what he wants from you and wants to have with you, the song is just a manipulation tactic to stir your curiosity, interest and attention his way. And you should be on NC is your head and heart is being messed with. We bang our heads against the wall analysing the breadcrumbs wondering WHAT DOES IT MEAN? It means nothing because what would mean "something" is when someone is upfront, honest and open about their intentions. And, if someone cares for you and knows that they can't give you what you want, the respectful and empathetic thing to do is to step away and let you go because they would not want to hurt you anymore. Keeping you dangling and playing head games is totally for their own benefit.
Author justagirrl Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 Actually Sun_moon, it was B. I was trying to clear my head of everything that had to do with him. I went NC...i haven't seen him since May 3rd. I broke NC a few times, was good for over a week and texted him. That's when this happened and he sent that to me =( You're right geegirl, it means nothing. If he can't be upfront about his feelings, then they're not there to begin with. He's a monster. He knows exactly what he's doing and it seems like he gets off on it. I just got stuck in his bull**** lies this whole time.
sun_moon Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Ok so if you went NC for over a week without texting him even, then get back on that horse and shoot for 2 weeks. After two weeks, you'll realize how much better you feel and you wont need to contact him. compare day 1 of nc to day 6, how much easier was it? the pain wont stop if you keep adding salt to the wound, that is my opinion.
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