Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 My mom told me that when my dad finds out he will disown me, take away my education, and take drastic measures to make me stop whatever I am doing. This does not make sense. After they disown you you'll be an independent woman so what drastic measures can they take to stop you from doing whatever you wish? Are you suggesting they might maim or kill you? This is starting to concern me and mirror those weird stories about Muslim fathers killing their daughters.
collegeguy_24 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Op, seriously you are messing up and I think you need to break it off with this guy. He's an ex-con, or so he says. Your 18, just graduated high school, and as youve said you have had only one other boyfriend. You have no idea what your doing. This guy isn't worth it, but you are under the illusion he is in love and wants to marry you and have children with you. Good god girl, go back and read your posts. This guy is using you, and he is risking your FUTURE! You only get one of those, staying with him will ruin it, and then he will dump you or do something far worse to you, and by then it will be to late.
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Her parents are already looking to ruin her life for even being with this guy. This guy sounds like the better choice.
Author sweetsarah Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 I am so grateful to hear these opinions from everyone on here. My mom was crying so much today and both of my sisters texted me while I was at work that I am putting myself in danger with this ex convict who is 26 years old and I am 18. Going to an excellent university to study biomedical engineering. He told me that he would financially help with me with college or provide a house for me if I get kicked out of my house. Honestly, I don't want to get kicked out of the house where I was raised my entire life. I love my family so much. When there was ANY problem, my mom would ALWAYS find a solution to the problem so I wouldn't have to worry at all. She brought me lunch every single day when I was in middle school. My family is very caring and I come from a good family. The downfall is that I fall in love with a guy who comes from a totally different background and happens to be an ex convict. I was asked what he was in jail for, he told me that it dealt with assault. Someone stole his drugs and that was his source of business and he had to get it back. So he used a knife on the guy who took it. From what I see, he seems like a changed man and he never plans to resort to that lifestyle again. He wants to become a rapper and study audio engineering. I met him while I was at work and he approached me and asked me if I wanted to get some drinks the other day. I told him that I don't drink and that I am only 18. He seemed surprised because he thought I was about 21. We started talking on facebook and on the phone. Eventually, we talked a lot more than expected and feelings grew to love.
Rita86 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 How exactly would he be able to support you financially? What is his current financial situation? What crime did He committ? ( I understand If Don't want to answer this.)
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I wonder if his mixed race is what your parents are having the most issue with and using his past as a cover.
collegeguy_24 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Sweetsarah, you just don't get it. what you think is love is blinding you to reality. If you continue this you are going to ruin your future. But whatever. Its your life, more people then not have told you what will happen and it obviously seems like you don't want to listen. This guy is bad news, thats all there is to it.
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 The future will always be there to turn into whatever it may. It can't be ruined only lived.
Author sweetsarah Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 I know a lot of people have told me and I think I might just have to leave him, which is going to be really hard.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I know a lot of people have told me and I think I might just have to leave him, which is going to be really hard. It will be hard. But you just started living semi independently, youre young as hell. You can always find a new love, you cannot find a new family.
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 and then there is the one who got away. You spend your entire life wondering what could have been and no relationship is ever as good.
coffeeaddict Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 By offering you shelter if you get kicked out, he's showing that he doesn't care if you're alienated from your family, the family you love. In fact he's encouraging it by making a series of promises to you. Your mother and sisters are crying because they care about you, and they're losing someone they love. They're losing you to an ex-con "aspiring rapper" who knifed someone over drugs, who's 7 years older than you, who wants to take you away from your family, possibly forever. You don't have to be a straight A student who's studying biomedical engineering to figure that one out.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 From what I see, he seems like a changed man and he never plans to resort to that lifestyle again. He wants to become a rapper and study audio engineering. I'm starting to believe this is a troll post...
Lucky_One Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 and then there is the one who got away. You spend your entire life wondering what could have been and no relationship is ever as good. Bullcrap. :bunny:
Author sweetsarah Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 He was telling me that he had always prayed and have tried to find a girl like me for 26 years. From the posts I have read, people have said that he is only using me. What do u think? When I told him the situation at home, he started crying and telling me "please don't leave me." He also wrote a message on facebook to my mom that he wants to get accepted into my family and to just give him a chance. He told her that he loves me a lot. My mom simply said what was on her mind and told him that she doesn't want me to do anything with him because he is simply teaching me how to be rebellious. From the posts I read, I think the best idea is to leave him.
Author sweetsarah Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 Many if you have wondered what he was in jail for. He was in jail for an agitated assault and used a knife. Doesn't sound good :/ I know I can't believe this is happening to me
collegeguy_24 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Many if you have wondered what he was in jail for. He was in jail for an agitated assault and used a knife. Doesn't sound good :/ I know I can't believe this is happening to me Don't forget your other post, where you said they were fighting over drugs. Not a good sign.
Author sweetsarah Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 My mom thinks he can actually hurt me. I don't blame her for thinking that. What if I leave him and he tries to do something to me?
sb129 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Sarah, your mum loves you and is worried about you. In all honesty the guy doesn't sound like a dream guy. He could very well be taking advantage of your inexperience and naivety. Don't sacrifice your education and family harmony for this guy- you're still really young and have so much living left to do....
coffeeaddict Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 When you're in a lot of pain it can be tough to envision a point where you'll ever feel better, but time heals all wounds. Your parents are just looking out for you because they love you, that's what family is there for, to help each other and guide you through the times when you can't trust yourself. If they gave you the green light to go with an ex-con who stabbed someone over drugs and wants to be a rapper, they wouldn't be good parents. It would be like feeding their daughter to the sharks. There are a lot of folks out there who aren't as fortunate as you are to have such caring people in your life. What you have in your family is valuable and irreplaceable, like a precious jewel, wannabe rappers with a rap sheet are dime a dozen.
musemaj11 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 So he was also a drug dealer? LOL I understand that you are a naive little girl. I was the same too when I was a teenager. As I said go ahead and be with this guy but please please please dont have any baby with him.
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Shame on you. This man is DANGEROUS and race is irrelevant. He committed a crime and got out. That doesn't make him dangerous. ICE T committed many crimes and never got caught. I don't see anyone afraid of him or worried he'll be a menace to society. Most consider him as gentle as a puppy dog.
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 My mom thinks he can actually hurt me. I don't blame her for thinking that. What if I leave him and he tries to do something to me? Notice how all of the hyper hysteria you are experiencing has no basis in reality. It comes from myopic perspectives whether here or from your family. You have never been given any cause for concern in your time with him. You shouldn't be worried.
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Bullcrap. :bunny: You haven't lived enough to know... Don't worry. Experience doesn't come in gallons but teaspoons.
TaurusTerp Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Jesus christ. Im glad I dont have a daughter, because I would honestly have this guy killed to save my daughter this horrendous mistake.
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