loopyloop Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Right so I keep telling myself that I'm not bothered, but I think I actually really am. Been together for a year, and it was wonderful, we had our arguments, but I say it was a pretty loving relationship. Anyway this girl comes on to the scene (one of his exes) and he starts talking to her, friendly and first and then flirtatious, so any girlfriend would obviously question why he was talking to her in the first place. Que massive argument about her being a "friend" and that he hasn't seen/spoken to her in ages - "I would never cheat on you", "I love you" etc. Things die down and we sort it out. However she comes up a second time, more flirtatious and asking if he would like to go out for a drink. This argument was way more serious and almost ended in a split. However we worked it out and he promised that he would stop speaking to her, completely for the sake of our relationship. So the following night we were watching a film, cuddling, kissing and everything was fine. He goes home and I sign in to Facebook, to find out he's still talking to her. Another argument, and didn't speak to him for the rest of the next day. Receive a phone call the following evening, to "I'm not sure if I want to be in this relationship anymore because we always argue etc." "But we're arguing because of her" "I'm fed up of it" "Well do you want to be with me?" "Well.. I don't know, yes" "Well stop talking to her then" "I can't.. Do you want me to be honest with you" ".. Yes" "I have feelings for her" This really was the knife in the heart, I was gutted and never thought he would ever say that to me, not after all the "I love you"s and "you are my everything"s. So I ended it, after I further found out they had been emailing each other for quite a while behind my back. He's with her now. And I'm heartbroken.
Royal Guy Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Right so I keep telling myself that I'm not bothered, but I think I actually really am. Been together for a year, and it was wonderful, we had our arguments, but I say it was a pretty loving relationship. Anyway this girl comes on to the scene (one of his exes) and he starts talking to her, friendly and first and then flirtatious, so any girlfriend would obviously question why he was talking to her in the first place. Que massive argument about her being a "friend" and that he hasn't seen/spoken to her in ages - "I would never cheat on you", "I love you" etc. Things die down and we sort it out. However she comes up a second time, more flirtatious and asking if he would like to go out for a drink. This argument was way more serious and almost ended in a split. However we worked it out and he promised that he would stop speaking to her, completely for the sake of our relationship. So the following night we were watching a film, cuddling, kissing and everything was fine. He goes home and I sign in to Facebook, to find out he's still talking to her. Another argument, and didn't speak to him for the rest of the next day. Receive a phone call the following evening, to "I'm not sure if I want to be in this relationship anymore because we always argue etc." "But we're arguing because of her" "I'm fed up of it" "Well do you want to be with me?" "Well.. I don't know, yes" "Well stop talking to her then" "I can't.. Do you want me to be honest with you" ".. Yes" "I have feelings for her" This really was the knife in the heart, I was gutted and never thought he would ever say that to me, not after all the "I love you"s and "you are my everything"s. So I ended it, after I further found out they had been emailing each other for quite a while behind my back. He's with her now. And I'm heartbroken. So there are heartless people everywhere in this world who move on even when everythings going fine and have relations behind our back . I am in the same situation, go on NC thats the best I can suggest. He will and surely will contact you, a person who moves on this easily either is heartless or doesn't care about anybody elses heart, but soon when he is bored of her or starts getting to that point, he will contact you and if he actually loved you he still would contact you. Exactly same things happening to me. But be on NC. He had enough of time to get things straight, but he ran his business behind your back and hurt you so this bad. Don't give him another chance to repeat it.
bikinibeach Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 oh love... this is so horrible. i'm so sorry that happened to you
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