ryandxtreme Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 today i have found out that my ex-gf has been in a relation with a guy of her university...don't know since when though.. she broke up with me in january..initially she had no reasons to offer..slowly she started saying i was overpossessive and she wanted to remain single...called me over and over when i told her that i didnt want to remain friends... we had been together for 5 years and during the course she had cheated on me twice..and each time i had made-up with her thinking she had made a mistake...she acted so remorseful that i couldnt help it... she didnt let me go to nc for even a month after our last brak-up and as many times i asked her if she was dating someone else she would go berserk on me and tell me how bad a bf i was...she even said i was a curse in her life when i had given more than 200% to the relationship...not even once did i slip during our stay together... i'm feeling totally lost and out of control and devastated..people say about 'karma'...now on I for one would say it's a total bull****... any advice from LSers shall be hugely appreciated..guys i'm in immense pain and just feeling like i can't take it any more
dreamscape123 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I agree ... NC . You need to take control of what is happening mate. This may sound harsh, but i am being as honest as i can. She is trying to have her cake and eat it. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity , just as i am sure you would treat anyone else. By sticking to NC, she may come start to think about things and that she cant have what she wants, when she wants.. Hope it all works out good for you
Author ryandxtreme Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 thanks a lot guys for ur replies..they mean a lot.. u know friends what hurts most???all this 5 months i had been trying to figure out where i went wrong...what could i have done differently..but now i realize she just left me because she wanted to be with someone else..i guess she started it before the breakup..and all the while she was accusing me and cursing me to the extent that i lost all my self-pride and was cusing myself(never realized over what though?) also i want to know should i call her up and lambaste her the way she did???...shall it reduce this pity i'm having on myself for being a total idiot all this while(i know i'm sounding pathetic but i cant emphasize enough about how much hatred i'm feeling towards her) ?
Author ryandxtreme Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 inspite of her cheatings i had never said anything harsh to her ever...i was always this boy who would do all he could to make her happy...be beside her during all her moments of anguish... but i just cant forget the way she treated me post breakup and that too when i had done nothing wrong...i just hate her from the bottom of my heart
Author ryandxtreme Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 inspite of her cheatings i had never said anything harsh to her ever...i was always this boy who would do all he could to make her happy...be beside her during all her moments of anguish... but i just cant forget the way she treated me post breakup and that too when i had done nothing wrong...i just hate her from the bottom of my heart
PegNosePete Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 also i want to know should i call her up and lambaste her the way she did??? NC means No Contact.
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