Sleepless in the city

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This is a rather complex story. I went to hang out with my friends and they brought along two of their friends, let's call them Mike and Stan. That night I thought I had hit it off with Mike and we ended up making out, however he asked me if I would make out with Stan because "he wanted me too". From the get go I could tell Stan was more into me than Mike was, but he was too shy so I didn't pay attention to him even though he was better looking. When Mike said this to me I was infuriated and I told him to go to hell and then I told Stan "It was nice meeting you. I obviously made a mistake and chose the wrong guy. Your friend is a complete jerk and you're far better looking anyway. I have to go now" and I left. I honestly wasn't expecting anything to come out of this, and wasn't expecting to see them again... I am young and stupid and I was drunk. Period. End of story, right?

 

Two days later my friends bring them over again, Mike apologizes and tries to get on my good side and flirt with me but I ignore him. Stan however began pursuing me. We kissed that night after talking a lot and having a great connection and started to date afterwards and exchange text messages constantly to the point we were talking every day. However I've made a few blunders along the way...he lives far from me, about an hour away and he works from monday to saturday so I barely see him, but he visits me every week. One week he promised to come but he fell asleep and when he woke up he immediately messaged me. However I told him to go to hell, which made him jump into a bus and in no time he was at my doorstep. After that everything was going great, but the next weekend he was coming to visit me and we were going to go eat. I canceled dinner and told him to come to this party instead. He ate with his buddy and I just skipped dinner. When he got to the party he was with three friends, one being Mike, the one I had made out with. I wanted to make it all cool, and make him see that I didn't care about Mike, since it was a pretty awkward situation I wanted to make it light. BIG MISTAKE. This got him so jealous. Later I had asked him if he'd come eat with me, because I was hungry and had skipped dinner. He refused because he was still mad that I didn't eat with him so I informed everyone I was gonna go eat. Mike offered to go with me because he hadn't eaten and I accepted second HUGE mistake. This made him so mad that he didn't come visit me the next day as he had promised. I just didn't get where he was coming from and I kept getting mad at him for being mad until he even apologized, and he tried to go as things were normal but I told him to go to hell yet again. My friends beat me up for doing this and told me I should go visit him since he always complained that I didn't visit. So i visited him at work as a surprise, at first he was still resented with me but it otherwise went great. After that we talked all week. He told me he was gonna come visit me that weekend and how he couldn't wait to see me again.

 

So what do I do? I try to show him more interest, since he was the one always visiting and always initiating contact. I told him I had a surprise for him. We talked until the very last second of his supposed scheduled arrival. What happens next day? It's 8pm and I still haven't heard from him so I text him. He got held back at work, he doesn't know what time he gets off, so he doesn't know if he can come over. What do I do? I totally don't believe him (although I don't tell him this) but instead of being understanding I bitch him out, tell him how he ruined my surprise and tell him what it was. Of course I go for the silent treatment, since he totally blew me off. HE DIDN'T EVEN TALK TO ME.

 

So a week goes by and I talk to him. He told me he didn't talk to me because he thought I was mad at him and he wanted to give me some space because he knew he had totally let me down. Of course I act all demanding of answers and explanations, and I even say something along the lines of not sticking around for a guy who isn't interested in me. He said he was waiting for me to talk to him and that I couldn't possible imagine what he was going through at work, that he didn't even go out that weekend at all and that he was so sorry, that he was really interested in me. Of course, I just say "whatever it's all good. have fun tonight".

 

Analyzing the situation I know I've been totally wrong from the get go. I was just not planning on liking this guy and when I started realizing I did I sort of freaked out. I have not had good experiences with men and have been hurt too many times. I haven't felt this way in a long time and it freaks me out to be vulnerable and have someone have the power to hurt me. But now I am ready to change and be open and accept I can't control everything in life and just trust him and be the easygoing person I used to be before some jackass broke my heart.

 

So my question to you is, do I still have a shot with this guy? Can I fix what I did wrong? How can I fix it?