My recent EX has a GF AND wants to be in contact with me

[MyHeartHurtsOuch]

So I just found out (by running into them) that my ex has a new gf already.

 

We broke up at end of Feb but still lived together and he moved out in April. We went NC Apr 25 he was already with her within a few days of that.

 

I feel like NC is why he got so close to her cause he had to replace me. He always had me there even during break up and he needed someone to fill that role.

 

He never told me about her. said since I asked him for NC he didn't tell me.

 

Yet when I broke NC twice during these weeks he never mentioned a thing. only said he still needed time and space.

 

Now he wants to have an "open line of communication" with me. Said he wants to write me a letter cause he has "so many thoughts, concerns, questions, and ideas" and we can "take it from there"

 

I wrote him a letter. It was long. I took out everything from my mind, heart, and soul and I threw it in the letter. I let him know my perspective and what this break up was like for me. I didn't bad mouth him I simply pointed out his lies, deception, and the many opportunities he has to be honest.

 

I asked him if he thinks this is ok? That he already has a gf. That his gf already met his family (who lives out of town!!), that they practically live together (or maybe they do), he's friends with her family, their facebooks are enmeshed.

 

He's 32...she's 23.

 

He said "life is fluid and its possible to mean something one day and to change your mind completely the next"

 

why does he want to be in contact with me?

 

My letter ended with "the truth does set you free. now i can release me from you and you from me. Now i know you will always be everyone else's man. never mine. you should be disappointed in yourself as a person, a human being. And, I can only wish you the absolute best"

 

I don't plan on even reading any letter he may or may not write to me.

[wilsonx]

DONT CONTACT HIM, you will hate yourself...

 

I BROKE NC 2 days ago and she answered and she came over and we talked...

 

she developed feelings for a 37 year old coworker and shes 23 and it EATS me alive that she allowed it and did nothing to stop it.

 

she then broke up with me when I caught them together at a bar but is trying to be friends with me as a security blanket incase it doesnt work out (which it wont).

 

I HATE MYSELF for breaking no contact everytime I do it but it was 4 days and it was the longest we have both ever been

[MyHeartHurtsOuch]

I feel like not contacting him is what made him jump in a new relationship. Now I don't know if I should keep contact or completely run the other way. I'm so sad and so hurt and I can't understand why he texts me and says things like "about to go to movies text you soon" knowing that I know he is going with his gf. And I think she stays the night with him every night. He replies to my messages right away so I know he has his phone on him at all times (as in hides it from her).

But he's with her. Not me.

I am scared that if I end all contact he will just keep developing his relationship with her. I really don't know what to do. I am so sad.