came across a post, about "can women pursue men"

[DreamerGirl27]

After 3 dates, I want the woman to pursue me too. If I like her, after 1 date, I love it when they email saying "thanks, I had a great time." If a girl is pursuing me and I am not interested, I'll be honest: "I like you and enjoy spending time with you, but I don't feel we are the right people for each other." If they reply "but I don't want anything serious (it has happened a lot)" I still turn them down, saying "that's cool, but if we hang out in a dating context, that means holding hands, kissing, etc, and I wouldn't be comfortable doing those things with you because it wouldn't feel authentic." That typically blows their mind as they can't understand why a guy would turn them down. The reason: I don't believe them.

 

and this is what one of the guys said. Is he saying "he doesn't believe that she's not looking for something serious" or is he saying "he doesn't believe she likes him?"

 

I took it as the latter. And if that's the case, why on earth would a guy not believe a girl likes them????!!!!

 

Ya know women do like men...and when we do, we don't want anyone else.

 

Or at least, I don't.

 

I'm very picky about the guys I'll date, but when I find a guy I like, holy crap do I like him a lot! and if I say so, I mean it! I don't just pursue anyone.

 

Do men really have such fragile egos and are so cynical of women that they think if a girl is putting in the work to pursue them, they're gonna get hurt in the end 'cause she wasn't really interested???????????????!!!

 

I know what I like. And I know who I want. I'm not playing any games just because I'm coming on strong. If I'm coming on strong, that's a good thing, because the rest of the guys I will tell flat to their faces, "I'm not interested, please feel free to eff off".

[Ross MwcFan]

Seems like he's saying that he doesn't believe that they're not looking for something serious.

[Disillusioned]

Like I said in another thread... it's her loss, not mine.