Tallgirl91 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Hi, I was watching this show called 'Girlfriends'. In this episode a girl was angered when she discoverd that her boyfriend felt that she was a 7 out of 10. She asked her boyfriend why he was going out with her if she was a 7 and he said that he would rather date a 7 than go out with someone like Halle Berry, who would draw a lot of attention from the opposite sex. So this made me wonder, do guys often settle down and even marry, women who they are not attracted too?
Eeyore79 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 If a guy isn't a 10 himself, there would be little point in him chasing after women who were 10s. He's unlikely to have the opportunity to date someone like Halle Berry anyway; he's probably dating the 7 girl because he has no chance of getting a 10. Maybe a 7 is a good catch for him! A girl doesn't have to be a 10 for a guy to find her attractive, she just has to be equally or more attractive compared to him. This proves an important point: Even if you know your partner isn't a 10, you should always tell them they're gorgeous. Never ever tell someone they're less than a 10, even if it's the truth.
USCGAviator Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 The government needs to step in and start issuing citizens ID cards with your number on it. Every year you get re-evaluated and get a new card with your number updated. So say your a 7 right? your authorized to talk to 6's and 8's. That's your range. You can't talk to a 9 though. You get caught talking to a 9 you get beat. And you can talk to a 5 though. And you can even have an attitude about it. Like "I'm a 7 I'm doing you a favor". And you can punch a 2 in the head. Problem solved.
ascendotum Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Hi, I was watching this show called 'Girlfriends'. In this episode a girl was angered when she discoverd that her boyfriend felt that she was a 7 out of 10. She asked her boyfriend why he was going out with her if she was a 7 and he said that he would rather date a 7 than go out with someone like Halle Berry, who would draw a lot of attention from the opposite sex. So this made me wonder, do guys often settle down and even marry, women who they are not attracted too? From your other post here it is obvious you dont think you are a 10. Do you expect a guy that's a 10 on the beauty scale? Do you think all the other girls in your class are 10s. Highly unlikely, but would you be fine for all their bfs and your future bf to lie to you and say you are all 10s. Overall in regards to the 1-10 scale the intention is to grade the person against the entire population. Sorry but the average person is going to be a 5. There is no sin in that, though many people especially women would hate that thought. I would never say to a gf what I thought she was out of 10, even if she pestered me for a ranking. I would just tell her she's beautiful. Most people find certain other people attractive that many others wouldn't necessarily, but still if no one ever married anyone that was not a total hottie, then the planet would have a whole lot less people than it does today. Also, wondering if your partner settled, is not the exclusive domain of women when it comes time to marriage, especially for those that leave it till later in life. I'm not a 10 and I dont get gfs that are 10s and would have been single way more than I have if I exclusively only dated women who were, and I don't delude myself that my gfs thought I was the absolute best out there, but it doesn't mean we didn't have an awesome time together. Beauty is not absolute. Same goes for other aspects of your life..if you dont own the very best & most expensive brand name gear or house is your life less worthwhile?
Rinnix Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Everyone has a different eye for beauty. Someones "5" can be another's "10". I just want the person who is with me to believe that I am attractive, and that they are not settling. I don't need to be perfect in order to be seen that way. I have no desire to be with someone who is only with me because they feel they "can't do better". I also don't date anyone who feels the need to rate me on a scale. 1
ascendotum Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 The government needs to step in and start issuing citizens ID cards with your number on it. Every year you get re-evaluated and get a new card with your number updated. So say your a 7 right? your authorized to talk to 6's and 8's. That's your range. You can't talk to a 9 though. You get caught talking to a 9 you get beat. And you can talk to a 5 though. And you can even have an attitude about it. Like "I'm a 7 I'm doing you a favor". And you can punch a 2 in the head. Problem solved. :laugh:. For the singles over 60 do they get ranked against others 60-70 or against the general population, everyone old would just have 1-2 otherwise. What about also having it state offspring status, and guys with ex single mothers should not be allowed to fraternise with single child free women.
dangerstranger Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 ALL of my gf's have this saying: "Date a guy that is less hot than you are and you will have more control". Does it work? No, not really. I think guys do the same thing. Date a woman less attractive than you are and there is less of a chance that they will cheat or leave you. I walked into a store the other day and there was the hottest guy I've ever seen waiting by the cash register. His gf/wife, came out of the change room- and she was kinda frumpy, a little overweight, and not something to write home about. He was fashionable, great jeans!!! Her style was antiquated, she didn't speak english well, and she looked a bit older and way more haggered than him. Maybe she has a great personality.
Dust Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Yes, some men are so immature they say and think things like that. For me I try to look at women as either attractive or unattractive. Sure I’ve played "who is the hottest actress?" or "ranking girls in school." The thing is I would never rate a girl I was into anything but a 10/10 and even that could come off disrespectful. When I date a girl I just think she is beautiful the end. I could care less what any one else thinks which includes friends, family, Hollywood, etc. 1
Author Tallgirl91 Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 ALL of my gf's have this saying: "Date a guy that is less hot than you are and you will have more control". Does it work? No, not really. . Yeah, Thats what a lot of my friends think but then they end up actually falling for the guy and that gives him most of the control. lol
Author Tallgirl91 Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 This proves an important point: Even if you know your partner isn't a 10, you should always tell them they're gorgeous. Never ever tell someone they're less than a 10, even if it's the truth. One of my guy friends , everytime he is in a relationship with a girl he tells them that they are the most beautiful girl in school, than when they break up he finds them too be unattractive and even ugly. I think that if your in a relationship with someone, honesty when it comes to looks is important, but it should be a very nice and sugar coated kind of honesty.
TheLawmaker Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Do girls tend to settle for guys that are below par? Nah, everyone aims for the highest they think they can get. If they're not aiming higher, that means they think they can't go higher!
t0ri Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 When I date a girl I just think she is beautiful the end. I could care less what any one else thinks which includes friends, family, Hollywood, etc. +1 The end.
Yamaha Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Everyone is a 10 in the right person's eyes. Not according to some people. If a guy isn't a 10 himself, there would be little point in him chasing after women who were 10s.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Reputable studies have shown that both men and women are happier in relationships when the man perceives the woman as at least a little more physically attractive than himself. This has definitely aligned with my experience.
Woggle Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 A lot more goes into making a woman a 10 than simply looks. Halle Berry might be beautiful but can't seem to have a healthy relationship to save her life.
Restless_Journeyman Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Everyone has a different eye for beauty. Someones "5" can be another's "10". I just want the person who is with me to believe that I am attractive, and that they are not settling. I don't need to be perfect in order to be seen that way. I have no desire to be with someone who is only with me because they feel they "can't do better". I also don't date anyone who feels the need to rate me on a scale. What is "settling" exactly? Being with someone who you don't find the most attractive person in the world? Like most guys there are women I consider absolutely gorgeous and never would have a shot at (Elisha Cuthbert would be my example). Am I settling because I choose to be with someone who I find sexy and interesting, but not as sexy as Elisha Cuthbert? If you were to choose me instead of Orlando Bloom, would you be settling? Looks are only part of attraction, even for us guys. One of my guy friends , everytime he is in a relationship with a girl he tells them that they are the most beautiful girl in school, than when they break up he finds them too be unattractive and even ugly. I think that if your in a relationship with someone, honesty when it comes to looks is important, but it should be a very nice and sugar coated kind of honesty. If it is sugar-coated and the reality is otherwise, then it isn't honesty, it's simply stroking her ego. Most women need this from time to time, but lets not call it something it isn't. Although it's amazing how being into a woman can make her much more attractive and a break up can make her a harpy.
callingyouuu Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Reputable studies have shown that both men and women are happier in relationships when the man perceives the woman as at least a little more physically attractive than himself. This has definitely aligned with my experience. Does the woman also have to perceive herself to be a little more attractive than the man, or is the woman's opinion not a factor? Just wondering if you know.
shadowofman Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. If you want my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you.
callingyouuu Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Looks are only part of attraction, even for us guys. This was the point that I wanted to make. Attractiveness is not the only factor in why we choose to pick one girl over another. Also, I would take it a step further, although I think a lot of people might disagree (which is fine!). If you stopped everyone in the world right now and gave them a super comprehensive, accurate compatibility test, it is very likely that my top choice will also be someone else's top choice. The same applies for a lot of other people. Now let's think about the likelihood of me marrying my person, and hence not "settling." First, I need to beat out the other guy, so that gives me a 50%-ish chance. Then, I need to find her. Let's be optimistic and say that in my entire lifetime, I have a 10% chance of coming across her at some point in life. Also, at that particular moment that I meet her, we need to find each other at the right time to make a connection, meaning that we're not in a hurry to get to a meeting, or I'm not deathly ill with pneumonia from a skiing trip, or she's not currently in a relationship with someone else. Let's say that's another 20%. I could include tons of other variables, but those seem like the main 3. That gives me a 1% chance optimistically that I will marry the person of my dreams in my lifetime. I don't mean to say that we should stop dreaming or hoping, but I just meant to give this crude example as the kind of gargantuan expectations you're expecting of yourself and the other person for both of you to not "settle."
rafallus Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. If you want my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you. And then, she'll be so repulsive that you will be unable to bone her. And she will feel frustrated and cheat on you. And you will be miserable. Nah, I'll stay with girls that are hot enough. Not gonna bother with numbers, as there is quite a bit of spread as for ratings made by different people.
musemaj11 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I walked into a store the other day and there was the hottest guy I've ever seen waiting by the cash register. His gf/wife, came out of the change room- and she was kinda frumpy, a little overweight, and not something to write home about. He was fashionable, great jeans!!! Her style was antiquated, she didn't speak english well, and she looked a bit older and way more haggered than him. Maybe she has a great personality. Or maybe she has a lot of money.
Ouroboros Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Hi, I was watching this show called 'Girlfriends'. In this episode a girl was angered when she discoverd that her boyfriend felt that she was a 7 out of 10. She asked her boyfriend why he was going out with her if she was a 7 and he said that he would rather date a 7 than go out with someone like Halle Berry, who would draw a lot of attention from the opposite sex. So this made me wonder, do guys often settle down and even marry, women who they are not attracted too? Everyone settles and no one gets exactly what they want. I would consider Halle Berry a 7. Katerina Graham is much closer to being a 10.
Velociraptor Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Reputable studies have shown that both men and women are happier in relationships when the man perceives the woman as at least a little more physically attractive than himself. This has definitely aligned with my experience. Yes offcourse... and according to you relationships works better if the man loves the woman more than the woman loves the man too. Basicly, relationships work best if the man absolutley adores his girlfriend/wife... while she couldn't care less about him OT: women who are 10 out of 10 doesn't seem to be "settling down with" material, The more beautiful a woman is the more high maintenance she is. Aswell as more stuck up and prude. I'd much rather want to be with say a 7 than a 10...
Eeyore79 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Now let's think about the likelihood of me marrying my person, and hence not "settling." First, I need to beat out the other guy, so that gives me a 50%-ish chance. Then, I need to find her. Let's be optimistic and say that in my entire lifetime, I have a 10% chance of coming across her at some point in life. Also, at that particular moment that I meet her, we need to find each other at the right time to make a connection, meaning that we're not in a hurry to get to a meeting, or I'm not deathly ill with pneumonia from a skiing trip, or she's not currently in a relationship with someone else. Let's say that's another 20%. I could include tons of other variables, but those seem like the main 3. That gives me a 1% chance optimistically that I will marry the person of my dreams in my lifetime. That's assuming that only one person would qualify as the "person of your dreams". Realistically there are probably a number of people who are all equally attractive, and any one of them would satisfy your criteria for a "dream person". So you're competing for one of a limited number of people, not just for one person. Unfortunately the other person also needs to be attracted to you, which depends on your own attractiveness - you may be competing with a number of people who are more attractive than you, so even if there are a few dozen "dream people" you still might not get one. I think your ability to get the person of your dreams depends on how high you aim; you have more chance of getting a dream person if you don't aim too high, and how high you can realistically aim depends on your own level of attractiveness.
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