jordkorn Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 What do you guys think about giving flowers on a first date? In my situation I have been talking online for a while and we are going to meet up. I actually ran into my date in the park while I was on a walk and she was walking with her friend. So I have already met her. Are flowers to much in general?
youngskywalker Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 (edited) Bad idea to the uttermost unless you've been in serious and romantic correspondence for several months. You'll get much farther if you just kiss her on the first date. That is plenty, more than enough. Edited June 13, 2011 by youngskywalker
Eeyore79 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 A bunch of flowers is too much for a first date - save the flowers for a woman you've been dating for a while. Never bring a bunch of flowers on a date under any circumstances, because she'll have to carry them around all evening and watch them wilt - if you're going to buy flowers, bring them to her house so she can put them in a vase before you go out. If you plan to take flowers on a date (after you've been dating her for a while), get one with a wristband or a pin so she doesn't have to carry it.
youngskywalker Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 get one with a wristband or a pin so she doesn't have to carry it. Thats a great idea, never thought about that. I'm going to do that for my g/f of six months. OP for now don't even think about bringing anything but yourself. Love and affection is something that is earned.
mogul Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 DO NOT bring flowers on a first date. That is putting way too much pressure on each other.
Dust Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 If it’s a girl you met on the internet then what you are really asking is “flowers on a first meeting?” I don’t like online dating and recommend that men stay away from it. I wouldn’t buy a girl flowers on a first date or in your case a first meeting. It would be romantic if you passed a flower store or a person selling flowers came by and you bought her a single rose to hold. Maybe if you were walking by a flower in the park or what ever you could pick it and give to her.
Mrlonelyone Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 The truth is this. If the woman is attracted to you and actually likes you then the flowers will be nice but wont make a difference at all. I mean consider the internal dialog "I was really into this guy and 110% attracted but he bought me flowers so to hell with him." If the woman is not attracted to you and dosen't really like you or is sort of lukewarm... then flowers won't make a difference and make her like you. What I may do is provide an excuse for her to act on not being that into you. In which case spending $20 on some flowers could keep you from dropping hundreds on a woman who's not that into you. The bottom line is you cannot lose out. Either she already likes you and the flowers will not reverse that, or she already is not really that into you and the flowers could trigger her to come out and say it sooner. In either case you win.
ConfusedGuy28 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 If you want to give flowers on the first date, here are your options: 1) If you pick her up, then give them to her then 2) If you are meeting, give them to her at the END of the date. Very simple - walk over to your car, and pull them out of your trunk. Obviously only do this if you think the date has gone well, lol.
youngskywalker Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 The bottom line is you cannot lose out. There is truth to that statement. So then don't buy her flowers. If she likes you then flowers won't make her hate you. If she hates you then flowers won't make her like you. Bottom line is don't buy the flowers. It makes you look desperate.
youngskywalker Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 If you are meeting, give them to her at the END of the date. Very simple - walk over to your car, and pull them out of your trunk. Obviously only do this if you think the date has gone well, lol. It would look like a plan B "if the date went well" when you pull it out of your trunk. She'd think you do that to all the girls. If fact, if you give her flowers on the first date, she's just going to think you do that to all the girls for some snatch. Dude, don't be stupid. Save the flowers for the third or forth date if it's so important to you.
youngskywalker Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 (edited) I'll add one more thing. There is a big difference between meeting a girl online and having a date with a girl who you've had real life interaction with. If you've been working on this girl for some time for a date in your circle of friends then I'd change my opinion about bringing her flowers. But for a girl you've never met before it just makes you look like a complete weenie. Please, just don't do it. Edited June 13, 2011 by youngskywalker
oaks Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 What do you guys think about giving flowers on a first date? Crazy idea. Don't do this until you're sure that there's at least a good chance that 'dating' will turn into a relationship.
Ross MwcFan Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 To me personally. Flowers on the first date would be so over the top, and corny. Flowers even after being together for months or years seems corny too. But maybe that's just me, or how things are in my culture, I honestly don't know. I think the same with boxes of chocolates too.
cerridwen Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 What do you guys think about giving flowers on a first date? In my situation I have been talking online for a while and we are going to meet up. I actually ran into my date in the park while I was on a walk and she was walking with her friend. So I have already met her. Are flowers to much in general? I love getting flowers and find it thoughtful and romantic. But, not on the first date. Refrain, OP. Dust's ideas of buying a single flower or picking one for her are fabulous if it happens organically. Very romantic.
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