AmericanHoney Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I keep seeing this on OKC and I am a little hesistant because does that mean they are stuck-up and I don't have a chance versus replies often. I am not getting this lingo down
HopelessR Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 It means she is bombarded with emails and may only respond to the ones that are worth it. She probably gets a bunch that are 'You're hot, let's meet up', 'Whats up', 'Hey', etc. I never wasted my time with those and never responded, so I was considered 'selective'.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 Gotcha but I am a girl. I see these with different guys which is weird lol
Eddie Edirol Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Gotcha but I am a girl. I see these with different guys which is weird lol In that case, the guys that put that are trying to make the women think that they are getting bombarded with emails and that they only respond to the ones that are worth it. Women have choices only like guys with choices. Thats what these guys are trying to hint.
Confusedalways Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 gosh - mine said replies very selectively and I always felt like a huge dbag because of it. I honestly, really and truly tried my best to respond to anyone that sent me anything with substance but I did ignore the "u r hot" and "hey hows it going' and the 'hey wanna chat? ur hot. my number is 555-5555, txt me." Crap. I felt really labeled, but on the flip side I was often reluctant to message guys that said that too, so who knows. I dislike those labels a lot.
Intergalactic Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 mine says i reply selectively honestly though, i'm not stuck up. i reply to everyone who makes an effort with their messages.. it's just that i get a lot of messages from people who just say "hi" (i mean seriously, just ask a question or SOMETHING) or people wanting to meet up for sex. i don't reply to those.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 I block the people that want that.
thatone Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 i've gotten the same two one line messages from two trailer park types every so often for the past two months, those are the only two women who have messaged me first in that time. mine probably says "very selective" for that reason, because i never respond to them. the guy you're looking at might very well be in the same boat. how much someone replies doesn't mean anything. i can give you one man tip, though. type your messages in notepad, your login will expire and you'll lose your 30 minutes of work on that first message every time .
Velociraptor Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Gotcha but I am a girl. I see these with different guys which is weird lol Weird indeed, because guy's generally don't get any messages from women. If they did it was probably like 1 message and they didn't respond to it.
oaks Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I keep seeing this on OKC and I am a little hesistant because does that mean they are stuck-up and I don't have a chance versus replies often. I am not getting this lingo down Ignore it. People will reply if they want to.
TuffCookieX Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Uh, here's another dumb question. I can see who else replies selectively but can't see it on my own profile...?
Lilmisus Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I personally would find it better if it says "responds selectively" as opposed to "responds often." I mean..wouldn't it make you wonder that if they respond often, how many hits they get? If they get a lot..that kind of makes your chances of them responding and actually being interested, going down. But..if they respond selectively, and they actually respond to you..doesn't it say better things about them actually being interested? Shows that you aren't just another of the many that they responded to that day or that week..you're more "special" than the rest (to an extent). I say, give it a shot regardless of what it says on there and don't judge them for their lack of responses they may give to people. Don't let it hold you back from messaging someone, just use it as a precaution that if they don't respond, it's not like they didn't try to warn ya in advance. Sometimes..it's just best if you don't respond to everyone. No response is response enough, and that's how many seem to see it.
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