Chitowngirl Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Is this true? My dad is Jewish, successful in business but very passive at home. He allowed his wife to run the house and he didn't really have a voice in anything. I've known at least 3 other successful Jewish men who were highly respected in work, but when they got home, their wives did not respect them and the wife ruled the house. What are your views on this? Is this typical or am I just meeting too many passive Jewish men? (I dont have a problem with this, just feel bad for their overly aggressive wives).
carhill Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 OP, is your dad a practicing Jew who closely follows his faith? If so, there may be good reason for his perspective at home. Also, IME, many 'aggressive' men who assert that aggression out in the world see their home life as their refuge from that battleground; a safe and peaceful haven to unwind and recharge. In that sense, they may seem passive to the wishes of their wives by choice. 'Whatever you want, dear'. Further, it's possible and likely that their healthy aggression is spent out in the world so they feel no need for dominance at home. Lastly, this may be a reflection of chosen traditional gender roles, unrelated to aggression or religion. The man deeds governance of the home to his wife and manages his domain, whether his job or business, and doesn't usurp his wife's authority at home, nor her his in matters of job or business. Many potentials. Personally, I haven't seen any definable pattern in the Jewish families I've known, nor any other faith for that matter. Asking the men directly whether they feel respected is likely a better tact than extrapolating from actions. When we've seen one marriage, we've seen one marriage. They are as unique as the people within them. If it's healthy for them, then it is.
Woggle Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I know many men like this and not just jewish. My former boss ran his employees like a dictator but at home his wife had his balls in a vice grip. Come to think of it he got scared if a female employee said boo.
musemaj11 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I dont know. Im not a Jew. But my mom's friend married a Jewish man and its the same with them. He is successful but he lets his wife to be the dominant partner and she spends his money like water.
Woggle Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Actually many Hasidic and Orthodox jews are very sexist and patriarchal. Men and women can't even sit in the same room in some temples.
Author Chitowngirl Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 The wife is probably jewish. Jewish men are rumored to be very good husbands. They allow the wife to be the queen of the household. Why is that a sign of weakness? Yes wife was/is Jewish.
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