loveandlost Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Nice to meet you all, I would just appreciate some prospective on my situation. I'm 40 and my husband is 37, we have been together 11 years and married for 9. We have 2 children (7 & 4). My H left nearly 4 months ago, he had a text affair for 6 months and then jumped straight into bed with her when he left (Shes 10 years his junior), after about 8 weeks he comes home, i rather foolishly allowed him back with open arms and became a complete doormat. He lasts for about a week then leaves again, so i drop everything and leave the country with the kids for 2 weeks. When i come back things are nasty, he took money and furniture out of the house! Then about 3 weeks later he texts to say hes gone back to her, my H cant be on his own by the way! We at this point are barely talking. 2 weeks ago, something changed, dont know what but we started to get on, things are fragile as you can well imagine. Then one night he phones up ranting at me cos hes heard i'm sleeping with someone else (I'm not!), but put the phone down on me cos his girlfriend is coming. Well last week things stepped up a gear - he has started flirting with me via text! and tells me cares about me! Yesterday he told me he gets angry and sad that we didnt work on our problems and that it has got to this. He also said he enjoys our banter but cant tell anyone as people would read things into it and that he cant bear to see me with another man, that he wants me to be a dries up old spinster instead After he he drops the kids back he phones and asks some personal questions about my waxing session. Apologises for being a b*****d when he left and tells me he does care about me, and i felt comfortable enough to tell i cared about him too. Am i heading for an affair with my own husband? BTW I would have him back, with conditions Any thoughts much appreciated, sorry its been along one
Author loveandlost Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 Just wondered if anyone had any thoughts on this sitch. I would really appreciate it
worldgonewrong Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Given the close time-frame in which recent events have transpired, I think you have to take a gooood look at this situation and ask yourself if you still want to put up with his emotional abuse. I'm sorry, but the guy sounds like a creep, based on what you've shared. If you take him back, he needs to show evidence of change. Otherwise, you're in for more of the same.
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