RushNicholas Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I have weird feelings recently. I have a great, beautiful, smart girlfriend. We've been through alot. We love each other alot. We dont live in same town and because of university we see each other on weekends. But everything is alright. I'd say pretty same like before university. But few months ago happend something coincidental. I was on my way home in train. And there was a girl sitting in front of me. We were looking at each other a little. Then she left train. But then about month later I saw her at university party. She saw me as well and apperently she remembered me because she came and we started to talk. We said what a coincidence is it that we went by the same train and now we've met each other miles away at our university party. She is really interesting. We talked alot. She is really amazing and beautiful, smart, even-tempered. She has boyfriend as well. And he is far away as well so as my girlfriend is. Last few evenings We spent together and it was a great time with her. Nothing happend between us, We just talked about so many things, we laughed and smiled alot. I liked it so much and she liked it too. I dont think there's anything more than friendship between us. I still love my girlfriend and I still want to stay with my girlfriend. And that girls seems to love her boyfriend alot too. I'd like to be just friend with this girl. But I dont think my girlfriend would understand it..Because I probably wouldnt, I wouldnt really like to my girlfriend thinking about another guy and going out with him even...I'm maybe way too jealous... that's it, also I didnt tell my girlfriend anything about that girl and i'm not planning to. I know its maybe rude but i think it's better. And I dont think that girl told anything to her boyfriend as well. Honestly I can't stop thinking about her, when i close my eyes i see her smile and those few moments I spent with her were awesome. It was really something new for me and I really enjoyed it but as I said I still love my girlfriend and I want to be with her. And next year, everyone of these people will be in different cities. I am really torn and confused inside :/ I dont think any of you will help me. I just wanted to write it and maybe see a little bit what other people think I think i'll solve it like this: I will stay with my girlfriend(that's obvious) and I will be in touch with that girl via internet, anyhow I will probably not be able to see this girl again because she will attend another university. (wow I must look like a jerk but that's my situation, that's how I made it)
pincher76 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 In all situations, do what you would want your girlfriend to do in return. If you wouldn't like her having a friend that she feels about as you feel about this other girl - than you need to not talk to/communicate with this other girl. You know what the right thing to do is. So do it.
wild_urge Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Don't do it. She is going to find out one way or another, sooner or later and she'll be really hurt. She's far from you, she misses you and the thing she wants the least is you being really close and friendly to another girl. For women, the worst form of cheating is not when you sleep with someone else, but rather when you become intimately close with another woman, by intimately I mean talking, sharing feelings, etc. And you are in a way cheating on her, you are compensating for the fact that she is not there. She'll feel hurt if she finds out, I am sure, plus you wouldn't like to find out that she is doing the same thing to you am sure as pincher76 said already.
Author RushNicholas Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 Thank you both, that's what I needed to hear
blugirl Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 (edited) Honestly I can't stop thinking about her, when i close my eyes i see her smile and those few moments I spent with her were awesome. It was really something new for me and I really enjoyed it b That soooo looks like you were about to cheat on your gf :/ Well, you already are, as someone said: She is going to find out one way or another, sooner or later and she'll be really hurt. She's far from you, she misses you and the thing she wants the least is you being really close and friendly to another girl. (...)And you are in a way cheating on her, you are compensating for the fact that she is not there. I agree with it wholeheartedly. I am a bit pissed off reading your post, seems like you dont appreciate what you have and you seem to think the grass is greener on the other side? No, it's not. Been there, done that. It's just a test for you to see how much are you commited to your LDR ? So what's your answer? If I was your gf and knew about it, I'd be VERY hurt and probably my trust would waver a great deal, too. So better don't tell her anything and cut the contact with the other girl ASAP, at least to an absolute minimum. Don't play with fire. And don't be a hypocrite, I'm sure you'd be hella hurt if she did the same, and look at you now! Edited June 14, 2011 by blugirl
Author RushNicholas Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 Thank you for your point of view.. well as I said earlier I dont think there's anything between me and the other girl, but I'll minimize contact.. it will be easy bcuz I wrote that I might never see her again and I'm sorry it pissed you.
TearyEyedPride Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Your post seems very selfish... and it kinda irks me. Look, if you want to spend time and smile and giggle with the girl you saw on the train be man enough to tell your girlfriend about it. Keeping secrets helps your relationship deteriorate, and if your gf found out... you'd irrevocable damage the trust you two have at this point, and rightfully so.
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