Fastone Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I've been talking to a girl for around 10 weeks, and we've been talking about going out for the past several weeks. I've been visiting her at a bar where she works. Last week she told me her number several times (to make sure I didn't forget it since I didn't have my phone on me). She's been very flirty, touching me, singing songs to me with lyrics about being together, etc.. So I called her on Tuesday and left a voicemail with just a basic "Hi it's me. Talk to you soon" message. Didn't hear back, so I called her on Friday. I told her that I was planning to see her at work again on Saturday, and wondered if she wanted to have lunch before work. She called me back for literally 5 seconds and hung-up the phone. Then I went into her work on Saturday, and she looked very strange, like she was trying to avoid me. I talked to her for like 20 seconds, just asked if she got my messages. She didn't even respond, but said she would be right back, and went to the bathroom. A HALF-HOUR later, one of her friends comes out of the bathroom and tells me that she doesn't want to talk to me, and that I'm "all over her" and that "she can't work with me there". I haven't been to that place in a week and a half, talked to her for less than 20 seconds, and this is what her actual reaction was... I've never seen anyone get so weird ! I never said anything weird to her, didn't call her at any other times, did absolutely nothing strange or out-of-character at all. I don't know what this girl's problem is, but I'm really not liking being treated so weirdly all of the sudden. This girl went from totally on to totally gone in a matter of seconds, and I have no idea what in the world she is reacting to. Does anyone know what in the world is going on with this girl ?
Intergalactic Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 could be any number of issues, personality or otherwise. don't take it personally. i wouldn't even waste my breath asking "why". just get the fudge out of there mayne.
thatone Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 i'd bet money there's a boyfriend and the boyfriend found out.
TheLawmaker Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 i'd bet money there's a boyfriend and the boyfriend found out. This is what I'm betting, also. Either that, or she has a personality disorder.
Author Fastone Posted June 12, 2011 Author Posted June 12, 2011 Thank you. To be honest, this girl has been 100% cool up until this. I mean the coolest girl I've ever been around. I really can't believe this at all. I truly believe it has to be due to someone else's pressure. I think the boyfriend suggestion is right, and this guy may be threatening her. When she called me for the 5 seconds, it sounded like she was being held back and someone else was listening to my voice. It sounded like she was being choked and was a few feet from the phone. I know that might sound weird, but that's that's the vibe I had at the time and what I continue to believe. And her behavior seems to only support this. I really like this girl despite this episode. How do I help her get away from a threatening/abusive boyfriend ?
Intergalactic Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Thank you. To be honest, this girl has been 100% cool up until this. I mean the coolest girl I've ever been around. I really can't believe this at all. I truly believe it has to be due to someone else's pressure. I think the boyfriend suggestion is right, and this guy may be threatening her. When she called me for the 5 seconds, it sounded like she was being held back and someone else was listening to my voice. It sounded like she was being choked and was a few feet from the phone. I know that might sound weird, but that's that's the vibe I had at the time and what I continue to believe. And her behavior seems to only support this. I really like this girl despite this episode. How do I help her get away from a threatening/abusive boyfriend ? yeah... you don't actually know if that's the case. just leave it alone.
ConfusedGuy28 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Or............. She was just stringing you a long. She liked all the attention you were giving her, but she never really considered it more than just a flirting thing. Then you start calling and wanting to hang out - and she sees it as a perfect time to start the "ohh this guy is stalking me....poor lil ol me" bull**** story. Why would she do that? For any # of reasons.
thatone Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Thank you. To be honest, this girl has been 100% cool up until this. I mean the coolest girl I've ever been around. I really can't believe this at all. I truly believe it has to be due to someone else's pressure. I think the boyfriend suggestion is right, and this guy may be threatening her. When she called me for the 5 seconds, it sounded like she was being held back and someone else was listening to my voice. It sounded like she was being choked and was a few feet from the phone. I know that might sound weird, but that's that's the vibe I had at the time and what I continue to believe. And her behavior seems to only support this. I really like this girl despite this episode. How do I help her get away from a threatening/abusive boyfriend ? you should've told the friend the minute that the friend said that to you that she needs to ditch the boyfriend or stop flirting with people at work, one or the other. and when the friend got confrontational you ask her "how did i get her phone number if i was harassing her and she wasn't receptive?" then turned around and walked out. time to find a new bar, unfortunately.
Author Fastone Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 (edited) It's a jealous boyfriend for sure. Last night I got some texts from this boyfriend guy. I called him out on the fact that this was BS, and it didn't sound like it was coming from her. Replied "leave her alone", obviously trying to keep his 'property'. I can't believe any of this is coming from her. This guy is just trying to keep us apart. Not one word from her. Edited June 13, 2011 by Fastone
Emilia Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 It's a jealous boyfriend for sure. Last night I got some texts from this boyfriend guy. I called him out on the fact that this was BS, and it didn't sound like it was coming from her. Replied "leave her alone", obviously trying to keep his 'property'. I can't believe any of this is coming from her. This guy is just trying to keep us apart. Not one word from her. maybe she likes abusive relationships. this is her call, not yours, walk away. if she dumps him you will hear from her
Author Fastone Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 (edited) this is her call, not yours Exactly. The last words I heard from her were "I'll be right back to talk to you". The rest of this has been conflicting BS from others. Some from a co-worker who is known for not being the brightest in the bunch, and texts from someone at least claiming to be her boyfriend. Believe me, if she tells me that she doesn't want to talk to me anymore, no problem. But I have a problem with an abusive boyfriend as my source of information. EDIT, and not one word of what I've heard from either of the others sounds like it's coming from her. Not one word they said sounds like anything she would say. She has been 100% cool for months. What I've heard from the others sounds like it's coming from someone who is paranoid and jealous and possessive, not this girl. Edited June 13, 2011 by Fastone
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