Jman171 Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 (edited) 1) So i'll start out by saying that I am in NC with my ex-gf of 9 months, and we share some mutual friends. I was invited to go camping with these mutual friends (really wanted to), but was told that my ex was going, so I opted not to go but instead go to a mellow party with casual friends. I didn't tell them I was specifically not going because of my ex, and I decided to do the adult thing and let her have time with them, because I have a bunch of other fun options!. While I was waiting at a street for my friends to meet up, I see my ex drive up to a local gas station with all of our mutual friends. I don't think any of them saw me, but I saw them. I was SOOOO tempted to go say hi (also wanted to show ex that I was in better shape,new crisp haircut, and nice clothes). It honestly ruined my mood for the day though, and it threw me into a kinda silent mood for the majority of the day. So in the long run I opted not to go to camping trip, and not to say hi as I saw them leaving to the camping trip. I'm just wondering if I did the right thing not going over, and some words of encouragement. 2) The second thing I'm wondering about, is this party phase my ex seemed to go through and is still going through. When I started dating her 11 months ago, she was really not a huge party girl, and her fun seemed to be obtained through being with me and our mutual friends. After she got a temporary voluntary job though, she met her co-workers that she seemed to adore (and I was happy that she found good friends in them). Although, these friends started taking her to parties and, soon enough I was second option to her at all times compared to parties. Soon these co-workers/friends will be departing from the state permanently after their service in the job. So i'm wondering if after all of her party friends leave she'll remember me, and what she really lost. As of right now i'm NC but I have yet to tell her that I can't be friends with her, because she lost me when she dumped me. Unless she wants all of me, she can't have any of me. And if that doesn't happen I won't settle for half of her (friendship). I'm wondering if I should just send her a text soon telling her we can't be friends, or remain silent until she mentions something in the slightest about friendship to me. Also i'm thinking about blocking her on Facebook for my own good Long read, but I would appreciate thoughts and comments about these situations and what you think about them. And finally, I would just like to thank the whole LoveShack community for putting themselves out there to help others, and themselves! You guys truly are great people and I love each and everyone of you. -Jeff Edited June 12, 2011 by Jman171
coltsfan1 Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 DO NOT text her that you cannot be friends, just stop talking to her. I have cut all ties to my ex, they no longer deserve our friendship. I am not telling you to hate her or him. Just be polite (hi's & bye's) to mutual friends & never speak to her again. Only time to speak to her is if she speaks to you.
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