hurtingbad1 Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 So I got dumped, no contact for 3 days... I got worried and text her if she still thinks about me and misses me. She said yes, I got all excited and ask to hang out on the weekend. She said " i dont know how to answer that right now". Back to square one I thought........ Untill i remember reading somewhere, write a letter saying you agree with the breakup.... So i wrote a calm letter and dropped it in person. After she read it, i got a call right after saying she got it and read it. We talk for a bit, i ask how she was and stuff.... And Again i felt back to square one.... Ive been going to the gym none stop and going to parties, but every time i went to a party i broke down and left early... Well the last party i was at i lost my phone, and my dad called it and a lady answered it and he went it picked it up. ex works for my mom and all she heard was my dad called my phone and a lady answered... and she asumed the worst that i moved on. I all of a sudden started getting text's, so i told her to call me, and she said maybe... again i get depressed, but she called.... I tell her how things have been hard.... and i miss her kid and want to talk to him tonight.... so i call to talk to him, and she dont answer, but calls back 1/2 hour later... I talk to him... then go on what im doing. 1 hour later i get a text say " rob i need to know how you really feel about me, have you thought about anything". and right now shes coming over to talk..... Its been a hard week guys... but im not conviced on the complete no contact thing.... I think agreeing with the breakup is the starting point of recovery
Trovador Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 More than accepting the break up, me thinks... Anyway, NC is not intended to get anybody back and should be implemented as an aid to heal... the real recovery lies within yourself... But you seem doing right, even if whatever you have accomplished has been out of being needy and clingy (like most of us). You need to evaluate if those are the basis you want your relationship rest on, or if maybe some space and time apart are what is really needed here... good luck!
shook187 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 this is good, but you must remember TIME is what brings people back, missing you. no contact. they're worried. its a healer and it's a potential tactic.
Fedor Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Only hope if the person still loves you. Not always a given.
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