Reoreyh Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I was wondering if any women who were the dumper could tell me the reasons behind their choice, and to possibly describe the loss of attraction to their ex that made them make their choice. I was with a woman, and I thought things would last forever. We acted like it would, and after an apparently rough period (I didn't think it was so bad) she broke up with me. She hasn't been able to describe why, really. She told me a few issues, namely that I was jealous and negative at times, but I wasn't abusive and I met her needs well. I'm just looking for a little clarity and explanation as to what she might be going through, and why she no longer wants to be with me.
Eeyore79 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I have an idea of what I want in a partner. When I agree to date a man, it's because I believe he matches my idea of what I want. As time passes I get to know him better, and if I realize that he doesn't live up to what I originally thought he was then I lose interest. Maybe I assumed that he was intelligent and ambitious, or that he had good career prospects, or that he was well mannered and kind, and then I found out that he wasn't. Maybe I thought he was a strong man who I could respect, and he turned out to be a wuss. Maybe he acted jealous or didn't treat me well enough. Maybe I was disappointed because he was rubbish in bed. Either way, he fails to live up to my expectations and I lose interest.
EgoJoe Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Maybe you played all of your cards and gave her all of your power. Once you do that they walk. You gotta be a mystery. Good news though you can very easily find a better one and guess what she'll be back even if she doesn't know. She'll suddenly feel the loss of all your power. Haha, it's a joke. Trying to understand a person who won't grasp higher logic until their later years is an exercise in futility and masochism. Relax. She's as clueless as you are.
Author Reoreyh Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 Maybe you played all of your cards and gave her all of your power. Once you do that they walk. You gotta be a mystery. Good news though you can very easily find a better one and guess what she'll be back even if she doesn't know. She'll suddenly feel the loss of all your power. Haha, it's a joke. Trying to understand a person who won't grasp higher logic until their later years is an exercise in futility and masochism. Relax. She's as clueless as you are. This makes a lot of sense, and matches a lot of my beliefs. I feel better. Thanks.
iceweasel6 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 People have all kinds of theories, lists, check boxes you name it. Bottom line, there is no magic formula - there is only you. What do you want? If you want a woman that you can tell all your secrets and for a deep bond/relationship with, you will have to learn to detect her in public - because she is out there. There are woman who exists where are no "I used up all my cards" therefore I'm no longer interested in you. Meaning - they just want to know you, no cards, no tricks, just you. Then there are women with lists, check boxes, must have a car, a good job, stable career, making money etc, etc. The choice - that's right - is up to you. What do you want? You are the one who chooses which woman to let into your life.
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