youngskywalker Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 (edited) My g/f of 7 months is out of town for a month on business. I miss her but the extra space is nice too. Thing is, she calls me like 6 times a day. Instead of giving me space and letting me miss her I'm actually a little annoyed. Her busiest days are nice because she doesn't bother to call me so much. Even when she is home I think she calls me too much. Why do I get 4 random calls a day just to see how I'm doing? I'm not even including text messages. I think one phone call is fine if you don't see each other that day. If you're going to call your boyfriend at least have a reason that you're calling him. Not just a random "I haven't talked to you in three hours". Anyway, is there any way to put a stop to this? I want her to know it's ok to talk once at the end of the day. It turns my mood from liking her and missing her to just flat out wanting her to leave me alone. Edited June 12, 2011 by youngskywalker
cerridwen Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I had a boyfriend who texted me 50 times on average throughout the day. We were in a LDR so it was a way to stay connected. Even then, it took some getting used to, after which I found it sweet. You...not so much. Can you truthfully tell her calling that much interrupts your work? And it'd help you stay focused to just talk once at the end of the day?
Author youngskywalker Posted June 12, 2011 Author Posted June 12, 2011 I found it sweet. You...not so much. Everyone, including you, have their smothering points. I'm a very independent person.
cerridwen Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Everyone, including you, have their smothering points. I'm a very independent person. Yes, I do. So, then just tell her. Why hesitate?
dangerstranger Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Why not communicate this with her? Tell her it makes you feel a little smothered. Just be honest. You have the tools to make your relationship better through communication. Why vent on an anonymous forum? Just tell HER!!! Essentially, what's going to happen is that she's going to continue to call and text you over and over, you're going to get more and more annoyed and keep it to yourself.... And the issue is going to get bigger. You can't expect her to know how much this bothers you without telling her it bothers you! You've taken the time to tell "all us other ladies" on the internet not to do the chronic calling... Communicate the same message to the lady you have the issue with.
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