lalalandman Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Back on Loveshack. So, yea. Girlfriend of 5 years broke it off then called after 2 weeks of NC. So, everything seemed to be going fine, and she said she wanted me to go see her new place. Right before that, she came over to my place. I left my phone by her unattended at one point. In my phone was a recent text message sent to an ex who I haven't spoken to for 5 months. See back in October, my gf broke up with me for the 5th time in 5 years and I ended up meeting this other girl. We dated up until January. When I was cleaning my place after we broke up, I found a gold necklace that her Grandmother had given to her and it had her name in Hebrew. I decided to keep it, in hopes to give it back to her later when things boiled down. Call it weird, but I had no bitterness. And I knew it was a very important item. After we broke, my LT gf found it and asked what it was. I brushed it off as nothing. ANYWAYS, come to now again. I decided to contact this ex, and she responded. The first thing I said was Hey, I have your necklace still, and I know it's important. Do you want it back? She said yes. I went to go look at it, and low and behold, it's broken in HALF..... ....so I text her and say, listen, I'm sorry, but it's broken. She said It's Fine. We communicate for another few days, and the last thing I say to her exactly is Listen, I contacted you to give back your necklace, and see how my dog is (I left my dog to her mom because it was a good family), and as a friend I suggest you get back on speaking terms with your mom (she hasn't spoken with her mom since January). She responded with Thanks but I'm not interested in your advice. Take Care. That was it. Done. So anyways, 4 days after that, I'm speaking with my LT Gf again, and I'm planning on going to see her place. We get off the phone pretty nicely, and she calls back 5 minutes later and says Who Is 555-555-5555. I said, well that's my ex's number. She claims that the ex texted her. Which seems off. I ended up telling her exactly why I contacted the person. She accuses me of lying and seeing her for the past 5 months still, and seeing her recently, which is all False. She accuses me of seeing her recently and that's how my ex got her number. That didn't happen. I tell her, Well go ahead and call my ex and find out what she wants. If she's texting you, find out why. But everything I'm telling you is the truth. She Says , No, I don't want her knowing my number..... ....Ok so that's when I get suspicious. Doesn't make sense for my ex to contact her. I said, wait, she apparently texted you, so she knows your number already. I said fine, I don't want to have to do this, but I'll call her and find out what she wants. She says NO, I don't want that whore knowing my number. So anyways, my ex ends up sending me a slew of accusatory texts and calling me a liar. I told her to go ahead and contact the ex and find out that I'm not hiding anything. My feeling in she went through my phone, found the number, and saved it to bring it up a week later. I think she also broke the necklace at some point a few months prior. Anyways, after all the texts, she sends me a text the next morning and says Hey I actually talked with your ex and I'm sorry for accusing you. I told her she was forgiven, but apparently she blocked me, again. I said, wait, I'm supposed to see you today, and why am I blocked. She says it hurts too much. So now I'm wondering, huh, did she even talk to my ex. Anyways, I end up driving a half hour to her new city. I told her Listen, I'm here. I drove here, so let's just see each other. I get ignored and end up leaving. She texts me an hour later and says Oh I'll just end up crying if I see you. So, obviously this was all terrible timing. If I would have done it differently, I would have told her up front what I was doing. But I wanted to do it behind the scenes and be done with it. But even though she said she talked with my ex, who I haven't confirmed this with nor do I plan to, I'm still somehow being thrown aside. I'm so sick of this girl throwing me aside, only to pull me back in weeks later. I'll go NC, and then she'll contact me, when all I want to do is work this out and communicate. But she runs away from everything. So now, I told her fine, I'll just stay out of your way. I guess this is just another sign that we shouldn't be together? Confused. Help.
sun_moon Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 WELCOME BACK! I know your still aching and pissed more than ever. Start over. NC and all. This woman reeled you in, and you took it, and she gave you more pain in the end. CURSE HER. How with her snooping, and all the terrible things she did to you, does she end up smelling like a rose? Why did you apologize to her, for doing nothing? She should be apologizing to you for dragging you through the mud only to say no again and shut the door on you after a long drive. Not only do you have to do NC, but you have to flat out ignore her. She is manipulating your fragile heart, and every time you build enough strength and are ok, she comes tearing it down. I would go as far as blocking her phone number from your provider. Thats only if your ready to take that plunge.
Author lalalandman Posted June 12, 2011 Author Posted June 12, 2011 haha. thanks for remembering my story. It just sucks that I was trying to do the right thing but somehow she turned it on me. I wonder if she even feels bad for breaking that girl's necklace. I honestly think she knows I know what's really going on and doesn't want to confront her own lies. But I'm going to go NC again, and honestly, ignoring her is going to be hard. I already deleted my Facebook a while back, maybe the next step is to change my number...
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