HopelessR Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 I am terrible at this whole dating thing and just not good with the 'rules'. So I met a guy a few weeks ago on an online dating website. We went out 5 times. Had our 5th date Wednesday. We had a great time on all our dates but he NEVER kissed me or made any moves .... I figured he was shy. I know he was with his last g/f for a long while so maybe he just doesn't want to rush anything. So the last few dates we kind of traded on and off who set up/who paid etc. We went out last saturday (his idea) and then on Monday I texted him that we should go and do so and so on Wednesday. He agreed. I drove/paid (he did pay for some drinks and offered). That night he told me he'd text me later about planning something for the weekend. I wasn't sure if I was working or not and he was busy one day so nothing set in stone. Thursday AM he texted me about something we had talked about the previous night, and we texted almost all day. Friday - No contact. Today - No contact. I don't know why I'm making such a big deal about this. I do LIKE him but I don't want to text him all the time and be the one setting everything up. But I don't want to NOT text/make plans and him think I am not interested. Maybe he's just not interested ... who knows!!! Guys confuse me!!!
Elisa89 Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Just text him if you feel like it, ask him some simple question, like how he has been. If he's interested he will be happy to hear from you and will get back to you. If not, well he probably won't react.
dangerstranger Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I wouldn't contact him. When people are interested, they don't drop off the face of the earth for two days after regular texting and 5 dates unless they have a low level of interest. Don't chase him!
cerridwen Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 If you text him, you'll feel that you're once again initiating contact. Personally, I think you're over-reacting. People have things to do. I suddenly become very busy myself and "disappear" for short periods of time. It has nothing to do with interest in my case. Perhaps not in his either. Give it a couple of days.
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