M22 Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Long story short: Live-in girlfriend (35 yo) of 3.5 years left because I (36 yo) wouldn't pull trigger on marriage. Kept in touch via text & email mostly for 1.5 months. I was prepared to get married (although didn't outwardly communicate it), and wanted to let her know that that was my true desire. She agreed to meet me 2 weeks ago to talk, but day of left me a voicemail saying she changed her mind, and to please have NC with her. Since, I have sent 3 emails that I tried to spell it out for her and no response. She came to my house on 2 occasions while I was at work to move some of her things. However, the last time, she moved some of her things as though she was going to take them, but left them. I love this woman dearly, and am truly excited at the prospect of marrying her. Problem is, I don't know how to interpret her leaving several things behind. Is this a way for her to maintain NC but send me a sign that she's not ready to completely end it? Or am I just hoping that's what it is? Thursday was officially 2 months since she left, and 2 weeks since she cancelled our meeting. I feel confident that she knows how I feel, and what I want, so I do not plan to send her any more emails. Until I know what she's thinking, I want to remain faithful to our relationship to make sure that nothing else complicates a possible reconciliation. However, at some point, I don't want to pass up on moving on with my life and finding someone else if she's finished with me. My plan was to give it one more month. If she hasn't contacted me or removed the rest of her belongings, I would ask a mutual friend to come over and get it. I don't want to lose her, but seeing remnants of her around my house is absolute torture and continues to give me hope - false or not. Thoughts?
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