Did I over react?

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I started dating this guy 4 months ago. I wasnt overly excited on our first date as he didnt seem my type (i usually date the jockey, macho-man type this guy is more like the nerdy,sensitive guy). I decided to be open minded and date someone diffetent as I've gotten my heart broken with the type of guys I think are my type.

 

After a few dates we swope off my feet by going out of his way to make me feel special: he took me to fancy restaurants, called me evry day to ask how my day was, introduced me to his parents early on, he told the world about me, and constantly told me how special I was to him. I felt beautiful, desired, proud. In my mind he became prince charming and couldnt find anything wrong about him. My best friend told me he can't b perfect. If he was, he wouldn't be a succesful 37 year old VP, good looking, total gentleman and never married. She said it didn't add up. I thought he had high standards for women and that kept him single. Again, I felt special thinking I've met those high standards no one before me had.

With time I started finding things that made me feel uneasy: Found out he was a metro sexual who gets more facials and has a more complex skin regimen than I do! I've always dated very masculine guys who wouldnt even apply sun screen on! When I found out about the facials and beauty regimen I felt like waking away (this was our 3rd date),but them reconsidered thinking I should keep an open mind. After all, I get facials too!

 

So I thought getting facials was his only flaw and life was good. Then one day he started bringing out skelletons frm the past. I found out his standars for women werent that high at all! One day out of the blue, he tells me he dated a bimbo who used to wrk with me. Very pretty girl, dumb as a rock! I felt dissapointed he no longer seemed the sweet guy s

with high with high standards I thought he was. Did I mention she was only 23 when he slept w her, he was 35 at the time.

 

I got very upset that night,we fought, we said harmful things to each other, I refused to have sex for a while since it felt weird sleeping w a guy who has slept w someone I knew. Then I decided to let it go as it happen in the past. Then another day he mentions hes had sex with some of his closest friends. One of them I happen to know and always treats me porly. I told him how uncomfortable I felt, to which he replied "this is america, this is what we do" (I'm colombian, we are a very conservative culture) Then he told me his ex-fiance was invited to a trip to europe he and I were planning on going together w a bunch of friends. He just wants me to be friends with her, I don't like the idea. Travelling with his ex seems absurd! He won't even spend a weekend with my friends because he doesn't feel comfortable around them but he expects me to spend 2 weeks in Europe with his ex and b thrilled about it!

We used to get along great and always enjoy each other company, until he started bringing skelletons frm the past into our present. I started wondering

his motives for sharing that much info with me. I felt dissapointed, upset, insecure over the fact that he won't let go of the past to build a future with me. Is it normal to keep

in touch w one night stands, have sex w close friends and travel with ur gf and ex gf? (some times he would even describe how the sex was, I felt sick to my stomach)Did I let go an otherwise great guy over something irrational? Did I over react breaking up over this?

I now feel very lonely since my closest friends are in colombia and me and this guy spent a lot of time together. He was my friend first and I miss his friendship and his company. I kdep wondering if I made a mistake. help!