carhill Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Also, I've noted the more universally attractive people of both genders tend to follow the path of least resistance, preferring to move on instead of resolve issues and deal with boundaries. It's easier to replace the friend or partner than deal with them. So, within a relationship, or during the establishment of one, they're less likely to tolerate challenges or erected boundaries. I've noted this with MW's in particular (since I know that segment best). The really attractive ones validate themselves with other men if H isn't meeting their needs and then dismiss those orbiters as it becomes 'inconvenient' to have them around. Line up fresh meat and pull the chair to the table. The less attractive the MW is, the more likely she'll hang around and negotiate better tampon response, since it's easier to work an existing investment versus grooming a new one. From the male side, it's easier to overlook a woman's marital/relationship status, all else being equal, the objectively 'hotter' she is. TBH, the MW's who've hit on me or whom have engaged in inappropriate behaviors with me are miles apart from the women I've had relationships with or been married to. This causes me to conclude that they like the way I treat them but I don't match up with their league of money and/or looks. Most of them have been pretty well off too, far above my relatively modest socio-economic level. As I mentioned prior, I treat all categories the same, though when a hot MW comes on to me, there's no doubt it affects me emotionally. I'm not a machine However, if the guy is ugly, the more attractive the woman is, the more likely she is to reject him. Even if the guy is 'average', IME same, barring the exceptions I've noted above. I've experienced that a lot over the decades.
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 According to a research, attractive people do get better treatment at least upon first imppression. But I think the op is talking more about in a relationship. Oh, ok, if that's the case then I would say the differential in attractiveness between the man and the woman will be a large deciding factor on who gets treated in what way. Ex. if the woman is much more attractive than the man, then the man will generally work harder to keep her around. That is assuming all other things are equal, ie. the man is not a billionaire, etc.
SomewhatExperienced Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I work in a retail store that deals with a lot of attractive women (it's a specialty running store), but also doctor's patients and people from all walks of life. The staff at the store also is male dominated by far and always has been (simply because the majority of people who apply are men). I'd say nobody I know who I work with, and myself included, are jerks, sleazbags or bad boys. Everyone I work with I respect and consider a good, nice-guy. That being said, everyone who gets served is treated very well with lots of respect and not just because it's a our job, it's in the staffs' nature. Now, do beautiful women get treated better? Yes. BUT... I wouldn't say they get more respect. The guys might initially do a little more for that customer and go a little farther from the call of duty, maybe try to turn on the charm a bit more, but RESPECT them better? NO. I agree that if a guy truly cares about you and treats you well, it's in his nature. You can particularly tell if he continues to treat you this way for the long term and you see him treat others this way. Being beautiful will get you a little more: get into the nightclub quicker, boy at the coffee shop puts on extra shot of espresso in your latte for you, the door will more likely be held for you etc...etc... but it won't get you any more GENUINE respect or care from men.
mr.dream merchant Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I treat all women with respect. For the attractive women I make more of an effort to hide any attraction to them because she may be big headed or easily creeped out. For not so attractive women I'm usually more laid back and playful.
Saxis Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I treat all women with respect. For the attractive women I make more of an effort to hide any attraction to them because she may be big headed or easily creeped out. For not so attractive women I'm usually more laid back and playful. +1. As far as politeness and respect go, nothing different. But definitely when it comes to being flirty and playful, I "tense up" so to speak around attractive women. More of a confidence issue...
musemaj11 Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I work in a retail store that deals with a lot of attractive women (it's a specialty running store), but also doctor's patients and people from all walks of life. The staff at the store also is male dominated by far and always has been (simply because the majority of people who apply are men). I'd say nobody I know who I work with, and myself included, are jerks, sleazbags or bad boys. Everyone I work with I respect and consider a good, nice-guy. That being said, everyone who gets served is treated very well with lots of respect and not just because it's a our job, it's in the staffs' nature. Now, do beautiful women get treated better? Yes. BUT... I wouldn't say they get more respect. The guys might initially do a little more for that customer and go a little farther from the call of duty, maybe try to turn on the charm a bit more, but RESPECT them better? NO. I agree that if a guy truly cares about you and treats you well, it's in his nature. You can particularly tell if he continues to treat you this way for the long term and you see him treat others this way. Being beautiful will get you a little more: get into the nightclub quicker, boy at the coffee shop puts on extra shot of espresso in your latte for you, the door will more likely be held for you etc...etc... but it won't get you any more GENUINE respect or care from men. What's funny is that attractive people are used to better treatment that they expect it and don't appreciate extra treatment. In fact, they will actually notice you more if you treat them like anyone else. I myself have always worked customer service jobs. I always flirt with attractive customers. But I never go out of my way in terms of service for them. I give them the same service I give to everyone else.
Intergalactic Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 i think i am generally pretty good looking (i'm certainly not ugly) and i don't think my looks have earnt better treatment from men. i've had some boyfriends treat me wonderfully right up to and past the end of the relationship and others who have treated me great during the relationship but crappy at the end and some who are just douches from the moment they get comfortable. i think it has a lot more to do with who much respect a man has for females in general, and how mature they are in terms of relationships.
rafallus Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Looks determine if I want to hit on them (obviously the more attractive she is, the more I do), not how respectful I am to them on a basic level.
Ouroboros Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Guys! Does a woman's looks determine how well men treat her. Yes and it also determines how well women treat her as well.
thatone Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 in terms of blind dates, internet dates, etc if there's no physical attraction i will send obvious signals by not doing things like opening doors, pulling out her chair at a restaurant, making a lot of eye contact, etc. there are probably more things i'll do subconsciously that i don't realize in facial expressions and what not. if there is physical attraction i'll be on my best behavior. there's very little middle ground on this. it's an on/off switch, yes or no.
Ross MwcFan Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I really don't think their looks makes any difference to how I treat them, as far as respect, honesty and thoughtfulness is concerned.
Ouroboros Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Have you ever seen those videos where they take a supermodel and put her in a fat suit or hinder her physical charms with makeup and prosthetics as a social experiment?
Ross MwcFan Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Have you ever seen those videos where they take a supermodel and put her in a fat suit or hinder her physical charms with makeup and prosthetics as a social experiment? I think I have done. I take it they got treated worse?
Ouroboros Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I think in one the girl broke into tears afterward.
AD1980 Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 I don't think that in the long term men treat pretty women any better but they certainly give them that initial chance to meet them that they don't give to other women. And often in life, all we need is that one chance to turn our lives around. So, yes in my opinion I think that pretty women do slightly better in that department. Same can be said about good looking Men Being good looking doesnt guarantee a happy relationship but it opens more doors and gives you more opportunities at one then less attractive people
rafallus Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Have you ever seen those videos where they take a supermodel and put her in a fat suit or hinder her physical charms with makeup and prosthetics as a social experiment? Except model clearly wasn't used to living the life of less hot person. Of course it will be a shock. In the same manner, if you gave a million $ to a hobo, he would blow money fast (it was documented experiment BTW), because he isn't used to having (and especially not making) money and has no actual idea what lifestyle rich people have.
Ouroboros Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Except model clearly wasn't used to living the life of less hot person. Of course it will be a shock. Perhaps or it could be that less physically attractive people are treated so much worse they can't live a fulfilling, enjoyable, good life and can only survive it by developing a thick skin, but it still illustrates the point a woman's beauty affects how she is treated by all.
mr.dream merchant Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Well the reason I respect an attractive woman like how I would treat a man with respect is not because of a lack of confidence but rather because an attractive woman is used to men falling at her feet and showering her with compliments, hitting on her, etc. I'd rather not be just another one of those people, nor boost her ego anymore than it has already been inflated. So, like a man is how I treat her. Obviously I won't talk to her like I would another man, and I'll still do chivalrous things like hold the door open for her, or let her pass by first, help her with things etc...but any form of physical attraction I hide, even body language. With not so attractive women, I'm just more comfortable and friendly with them. I know that they aren't big headed because of their looks and I know that more often than not, other men don't treat them as well because they're not too attractive.
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Except model clearly wasn't used to living the life of less hot person. Of course it will be a shock. Exactly. Conclusion: hot young chicks are royalty in this world.
hoping2heal Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Attractive people are preferenced by everyone from infant babies to adult people. It is just in our nature to be drawn to and positively respond to things that are aesthetically pleasing. Would you rather cuddle up with a kitten or a tarantula? Now, everyone has their own idea of what they find attractive or not. Respect and reception are two different things, however. I know plenty of average or less than average individuals who seem to feel genuinely loved and happy within their relationships. That is not something that is exclusive to attractive people only, though some believe being attractive increases their chances. Oddly enough, I think being attractive only increases the chances of meeting people who are shallow and is really not an advantage at all in that sense. It is a tricky thing to be attractive and still find someone who is genuine, and it can be very hard to spot the difference. There are people who think if only they looked a certain way, they would be happier and have better, more successful relationships. That is a false notion.
TheLawmaker Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 There's no f u c k i n g way that looks plays a part in how a man treats a woman. How so? I know I am kinder to attractive women. I accept this. I am human, therefore I am shallow. Women are shallow, too...therefore more attractive men than me get treated kinder by women, too.
Cracker Jack Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 In general, I'm kinda shy. But when I'm around very beautiful women, I get really nervous and often can't look them in the eye. As far as how I treat them as a person, no different than the average woman. That's how I've always been. Well, when I was younger, I did go out of my way to do things for the beautiful women whenever I could, but that was....a good while ago, lol. If I happened to get a girlfriend today or tomorrow who was considered average by many, or one who was in the upper echelon of attractiveness, I don't see myself treating the latter better than the former. But yeah, in general, a woman's (or a man's, as this argument can apply for both genders) attractiveness will determine how she's treated.
SteveC80 Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Attractive people are preferenced by everyone from infant babies to adult people. It is just in our nature to be drawn to and positively respond to things that are aesthetically pleasing. Would you rather cuddle up with a kitten or a tarantula? Now, everyone has their own idea of what they find attractive or not. Respect and reception are two different things, however. I know plenty of average or less than average individuals who seem to feel genuinely loved and happy within their relationships. That is not something that is exclusive to attractive people only, though some believe being attractive increases their chances. Oddly enough, I think being attractive only increases the chances of meeting people who are shallow and is really not an advantage at all in that sense. It is a tricky thing to be attractive and still find someone who is genuine, and it can be very hard to spot the difference. There are people who think if only they looked a certain way, they would be happier and have better, more successful relationships. That is a false notion. Ehh i think thats what allot of average or unatractive people[not talking about you] tell themslves to fele better that lifes harder for better looking people because they are more shallow or attract more shallow people I can then say attratcive people have better chance to be with people there attracted to then unattratcive people who have to take what they can get
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