NoMan's Land Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Found out last night after my graduation that someone who was supposed to be my friend, had sex with my now ex-girlfriend around the time me and her started seeing each other last year. Told me he felt I should know since I was planning to propose to her. I confronted her about it after he told me and she tried to deny it but she gave in and told the truth. The both of them decided it was hilarious to screw each other behind my back. Now they've been calling me up all day today leaving me bunches of texts and voicemails. Now they want to be sorry and oh it was just sex and I want you and all that other irrelevant talk. She even came to my house today. Glad mother was there to tell her to go somewhere else. Oh well, at least I don't have to deal with anymore drama. Wiped my hands clean from the both of them with no difficulty. I'll just go back to being a player. It was always my calling. I invested in fraud.
Osiris1234 Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Don't go back dude, its not worth it. However, you can use this situation in your favor. Pretend to tell her you forgive her and then have sex with her as much as possible, then when your done with her, tell her you can't be with her anymore because you need new experiences. So while all this is going on date a new girl.
John Michael Kane Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Don't go back dude, its not worth it. However, you can use this situation in your favor. Pretend to tell her you forgive her and then have sex with her as much as possible, then when your done with her, tell her you can't be with her anymore because you need new experiences. So while all this is going on date a new girl. C'mon Osiris that's childish. Good job on you dumping the both of them man, instead of second guessing yourself and letting the tramp attempt to manipulate your mind like everyone else! Just get it over with and make it quick and clean. I suggest you change your phone number, get a new phone or maybe even turn it off when you're not using it.
vsmini Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 That sucks and it definitely was one crappy move on both of their parts. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. On another note: Wiped my hands clean from the both of them with no difficulty. I'll just go back to being a player. It was always my calling. I invested in fraud. It's kind of a tragedy that instead of learning from this and how you felt you're now just going to go off and be a player.....last I heard, being a player was a nice way of saying "treat girls like crap and not give a damn." People get f*cked over everyday, and it's awful, but it's no excuse to give up and pursue an empty BS life with women. Go have fun and date of course - but don't turn into some scumbag because a little philly broke your heart.
John Michael Kane Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 That sucks and it definitely was one crappy move on both of their parts. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. On another note: It's kind of a tragedy that instead of learning from this and how you felt you're now just going to go off and be a player.....last I heard, being a player was a nice way of saying "treat girls like crap and not give a damn." People get f*cked over everyday, and it's awful, but it's no excuse to give up and pursue an empty BS life with women. Go have fun and date of course - but don't turn into some scumbag because a little philly broke your heart. He's already learning from this by cutting out the source of the horrible pain. He's not a scumbag just because he no longer wants a monogamous relationship with another woman. People get screwed over a lot but he still has a right to cope with this how he feels he wants to. If reading helps him feel better he's entitled to it. If parachuting out of a helicopter everyday helps him, then so be it. He's been double betrayed.
bikinibeach Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Don't go back dude, its not worth it. However, you can use this situation in your favor. Pretend to tell her you forgive her and then have sex with her as much as possible, then when your done with her, tell her you can't be with her anymore because you need new experiences. So while all this is going on date a new girl. this is a great idea for me to do to my ex-bf. thanks!
rafallus Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Found out last night after my graduation that someone who was supposed to be my friend, had sex with my now ex-girlfriend around the time me and her started seeing each other last year. Told me he felt I should know since I was planning to propose to her. I confronted her about it after he told me and she tried to deny it but she gave in and told the truth. Only when you "started seeing each other"? Were you two exclusive at the time?
Author NoMan's Land Posted June 11, 2011 Author Posted June 11, 2011 Thanks guys. I know it sounds like what I'm doing is wrong but it's not. I won't be hurting anyone and there will be nothing to hide. It's the only thing I can do now. At least I can look at this saying I tried, even though it was a bad investment to begin with. Relationships are just not for me.
Author NoMan's Land Posted June 11, 2011 Author Posted June 11, 2011 Rafallus we were seeing each other a lot after we met. I guess you can call that exclusive but it doesn't really matter at this point. As long as I don't see anyone of them again I'll be okay.
rafallus Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Well, if you hadn't had the talk or otherwise explicitly agreed to be exclusive, then her sleeping with him wouldn't be cheating, just playing the field. And so could you in fact. Then again, why would she lie about it, if it's no problem? It's a pretty stinking trait to keep the delusion going - it can't be kept indefinitely. On yet another hand, you decided that you want to play the field now, so it doesn't matter anyway. Maybe it will be a future reference.
John Michael Kane Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Well, if you hadn't had the talk or otherwise explicitly agreed to be exclusive, then her sleeping with him wouldn't be cheating, just playing the field. And so could you in fact. Then again, why would she lie about it, if it's no problem? It's a pretty stinking trait to keep the delusion going - it can't be kept indefinitely. On yet another hand, you decided that you want to play the field now, so it doesn't matter anyway. Maybe it will be a future reference. That's not playing the field. That's just disrespectful and out of bounds. She screwed his friend while they were seeing each other. That's wrong and he has a right to heal how he wants to.
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