annabanana85 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I met this Italian guy in his early 30's at a party a month ago and we clicked right away and spent the whole night talking. We have so many interests in common and got along super well. A week after the party he ended up breaking up with his girlfriend of 5 years. The girlfriend came all the way from Italy to convince them to get back together but he has refused. Right after the gf left, we went out. We were friends at the time. We ended up hanging out for like 9 hours straight. But at the end of the night, we made out and he complimented me on my looks and personality. Since then he has been constantly sending me emails and texts. He wants to see me both days this weekend. He has been showering me with attention. I feel like it is kind of too soon for him to want to jump into a relationship. He told me that he never loved the gf to begin with and he was simply with her because it was comfortable for him. Do you think that I am the reason behind the breakup? I feel guilty!
vsmini Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Don't feel guilty - the guy sounds like a jerk. The girl is better off.
Mimolicious Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I met this Italian guy in his early 30's at a party a month ago and we clicked right away and spent the whole night talking. We have so many interests in common and got along super well. A week after the party he ended up breaking up with his girlfriend of 5 years. The girlfriend came all the way from Italy to convince them to get back together but he has refused. Right after the gf left, we went out. We were friends at the time. We ended up hanging out for like 9 hours straight. But at the end of the night, we made out and he complimented me on my looks and personality. Since then he has been constantly sending me emails and texts. He wants to see me both days this weekend. He has been showering me with attention. I feel like it is kind of too soon for him to want to jump into a relationship. He told me that he never loved the gf to begin with and he was simply with her because it was comfortable for him. Do you think that I am the reason behind the breakup? I feel guilty! I don't think you are the reason for the break-up. 9hrs of "hanging" doesn't break a 5yr relationship, cause DAYUM you may be charming and all but... Sounds like this was a LDR and it went stale. Dude probably just realized that the long distance thing is no longer for him, since he saw what it is to mingle with someone in person. Maybe THAT was just the Cherry on top. You are a arms reach, if he was dating someone that is across the pond but I don't think it was solely based on you. Then again, Lord knows if he's telling you the nitty-gritty. If he just got out of a relationship, may be too soon to jump into another one. You really don't know how was his R though, so it is a tough call. Try him out for a bit and see where it may go. LDR make people feel lonely yet still bind to someone. SUCKS! That def doesn't work for me... LOL!
Author annabanana85 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Why do you say that he is a jerk?
Jazzari Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I don't think you need to feel guilty. But I would be extremely cautious of this guy. You don't want to wake up in 5 years to find out that he dumped you for someone else. And that he stayed with you because you were "comfortable". But at least he did break up with his girl and didn't try to cheat. So that's something.
vsmini Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Why do you say that he is a jerk? He told me that he never loved the gf to begin with and he was simply with her because it was comfortable for him. Because that is a D*ck move on his part. It shows that he's cowardly. Doesn't that send off a bit of a red flag for you? It doesn't mean he'll treat you like crap but be cautious. I don't think you were the reason for a break up - he lead his girlfriend on until he had a girl lined up. She might be his fallback girl too if you don't work out. Harsh but likely.
Author annabanana85 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Well, the other problem is he is supposed to leave for Italy in 6 months. He says he might come back but I am not sure. So I don't really understand why he is interested in a relationship with me now? Do you think this sounds like a recipe for disaster?
vsmini Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Well, the other problem is he is supposed to leave for Italy in 6 months. He says he might come back but I am not sure. So I don't really understand why he is interested in a relationship with me now? Do you think this sounds like a recipe for disaster? I know I sound really, really cynical but he might just be blowing hot. Did he talk about wanting a relationship? This might just be a rebound thing. Doesn't mean you can't have fun but don't assume the guy is up for a serious relationship
daphne Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 So I don't really understand why he is interested in a relationship with me now? Because maybe it's comfortable for him? That is one way of saying it's convenient, you're here and it suits his purposes now. Doesn't mean he's looking for long term.
musemaj11 Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Why do you say that he is a jerk? Seriously? You women are unreal ...
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