Rafaela Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Hi Everyone I finally decided to share my story online after 5 months of pain with my boyfriend For 1 year i have been with my Punjabi boyfriend who was born here in Canada and i am from Morocco. we are both in same age 22yrs old, he is my first love honestly, everything was smooth such a lovable relationship full of understanding and faith as we are committed and we are planning for marriage. anyways the drama started 5 months ago after i started noticing that he is always careful about his cellphone and he even takes it to washroom with him so that brought bit attention so one day i decided to check his cellphone till i found some shocking msgs from a punjabi girl that she invites him for smoking weed with her and whenever she asked him in the text his reply was only i will be there in 10 mnts, i was hurt but i tried to ignore it till the other day she called him says that her BF accusing her for cheating with my BF and she wants him to call her back in 30 seconds in front of her Boyfriend to play a game that they only work together and she asked him to start talking about work while her bf is listening. and i felt for while like an idiot sitting there seeing my bf pretending and acting to save her ass. i lost my control and i snatched the phone from him and i gave her some good strong shameful lines to remind her of her manners if she ever got one. we had a long daily fight because of her, he is trying to convince that there is nothing between them and he only smokes weed with her once with a punch of other Punjabi guys and not 2 of them alone, so I had to believe him based on time that he spends with me and how much he cares about me. He quit smoking 5 months ago to prove that he has a good attention in this relationship, until 3 days ago I asked him to bring me his laptop so that I can take it with me to work for a conference that I was attending. What amazed me I found her phone number on his contact list, idiot he connected his iPhone to laptop and the contacts info saved automatically, so I started burning again because I never forgot about her game as I have a strong feeling that keeps bothering me, so I called her and she told me the story: that she smoked with many times weed with him only and she doesn’t know the other guys that my BF mentioned- she said that sometimes he used to pick her up and drop her home after work- she said that night when she called because my boyfriend caused her a trouble with her BF cuz he texted her asking if she wants to chill out (that nite he was coming to me, Omg I can’t believe it ) She said that they never been in relationship but he was too nice for a friend, she said that she never had feelings for him but he is the one who was pushing himself in a friendly way, also she told me that he never mentioned to her that he got a girlfriend he was always telling her that he is single after I hung up with her I turned his life to hell for all this bull**** that he gave me then he admitted only one thing from all what she said that he dropped her home only once because her car broke down. But how come he never mentioned that to me before He is claiming that she is a liar so I had to put her in speaker in front of him and all his reaction was hung up the phone stop bothering people (to me ) Means he couldn’t face her, now I broke up with him for 2 days but he keeps calling, texting knocking my door and saying that he will never give me up and he is always faithful and she lied to him because he couldn’t save her relationship that night when she needed him that’s why, I never seen him crying till yesterday and his face was so stressed and eyes are red. I know that he loves me a lot and he is planning to marry me but I just couldn’t forget or forgive him, he knows that he is my first man and I am so clean and faithful as I am beautiful and I just found it weird how much I reject guys for him and he is chilling out with girls behind me and smoking and giving rides it just doesn’t make any sense. Please help me what do you think about this stupid action that he has done and advise me what should I do?
nessaaa Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Im kind of confused...he pushed on her in a friendly way?? If he was chilling with her with other people, I dont see the problem...if he was chilling with her alone then i'd be worried. It's kind of shady how he never told her about you.
Author Rafaela Posted June 11, 2011 Author Posted June 11, 2011 I know its very confusing but trust me I am in such a circle of confusion don't know who to believe her (who answered each of my questions) or my boyfriend who didn't convince me or didn't even answered my questions fully He said he used to chill out with her with friend She said she doesn't know those friends that he is talking about and she is been chilling out with him only He said he never dropped her home after work as she never sit in his car She said he used to pick her nd drop home after work After he heard what she said, he admitted that he dropped home once only After all its not her fault because she didn't know he got a gf and about to get engaged My bf who was pushing himself. She even described him "too nice for a friend" Now I don't know what to do with him I am hurt a lot and he keeps denying all what she said Shall I believe her or him? Honestly I have a strong feeling that she was saying the truth How should I act now?
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