mrK Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I recently posted a thread describing my break up with my gf of 4 years. It seemed to have came out of nowhere for me, for what i could tell we were happy, then it was over. I'm so depressed its so unlike me, but i really dont feel like i can talk to anyone to the extent i'm able to speak to her, we're basically best friends, shared everything together, even now we still do, but should i ask her if i can go over to talk? i dunno how it will go cos last time i went down we ended up sleeping together.
geegirl Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I recently posted a thread describing my break up with my gf of 4 years. It seemed to have came out of nowhere for me, for what i could tell we were happy, then it was over. I'm so depressed its so unlike me, but i really dont feel like i can talk to anyone to the extent i'm able to speak to her, we're basically best friends, shared everything together, even now we still do, but should i ask her if i can go over to talk? i dunno how it will go cos last time i went down we ended up sleeping together. What do you want to talk to her about? You're trying to seek comfort from someone that gives you pain. It sounds as if you are just not ready to let go.
Author mrK Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 i dont think i am to be honest, the break up caught me by surprise (we were talking about getting engaged) and i just cant get to grips with things.
Nohbody Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 She is not going to be able to help you. Chances are, she doesn't know why. People don't know why they do anything, they just make justifications and rationalizations for it after the fact. Going over to her house to see her will only make you feel like crapola.
geegirl Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 i dont think i am to be honest, the break up caught me by surprise (we were talking about getting engaged) and i just cant get to grips with things. Everyone here will tell you to go NC to save your sanity but most importantly, save yourself from pain. And if you are being honest with yourself, then I will guess that you will keep wanting to seek her until you at least reach some sort of reality that it's over since you are in denial. You can keep on going back to "talk" to her but you are prolonging the inevitable. The comfort that you seek from her is temporary. It's a quick high and you come crashing down again. Then you go back for one more high to soothe your pain then you come crashing down again. It's never ending.
superchiefs Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I recently posted a thread describing my break up with my gf of 4 years. It seemed to have came out of nowhere for me, for what i could tell we were happy, then it was over. I'm so depressed its so unlike me, but i really dont feel like i can talk to anyone to the extent i'm able to speak to her, we're basically best friends, shared everything together, even now we still do, but should i ask her if i can go over to talk? i dunno how it will go cos last time i went down we ended up sleeping together. Listen to everyone that is giving you advice on here because they are right. I am in the same boat as you because my breakup came to me as a surprise. I was engaged to be married. For the past 6 weeks, I have gone in and out of NC. When I went for a week of NC, that was when I felt best. Then something happened where I had to get in contact with her and I fell almost all the way back to the day she told me she no longer wanted to marry me. I have now not seen her in person for nearly 2 weeks and I have also not had any contact with her for almost 48 hours and I must say, I am feeling pretty good.
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