Anyone else been betrayed by their ex, yet everyone takes their side?

[Sugarkane]

My ex dumped and insulted me by text, completely out of the blue. He blamed everything on me and was verbally abusive. I didn't even get a conversation with him, let alone meet up with him. We dated a year. he never contacted me ever again. It was like our relationship never happened.

 

Yet I was the one that got dumped by the whole group. Why? Nobody ever contacted me again. It was bizarre. I was severely depressed. Meanwhile my ex went on as if nothing had ever happened. He continued seeing the girl he was cheating with.

 

I read someone else's post who's story was almost exactly like mine. But except that the friends actually stuck by them and continued being friends with them. So why didn't mine? Why did they choose an arrogant, cruel, lying, cheater over me? Obviously my friendhip ment nothg to them. I want to tell them what I really think of them. I want to tell them thanks for cutting me off. I hope my ex screws all of you over. You all deserve it.

[Maoky]

Obviously you deserve better friends if they just took his side like that. You wouldn't really want to hang out with people that would side with a cheater anyway.

 

I was in a similar situation. My ex turned some of my friends against me, but I was lucky enough to have some friends that stuck by me too. The friends that turned against me...well I've moved and found better friends. Sometimes when there's no options all you can do is move on =)

[Mack05]

Yeah bro been there! When myself and my ex broke up I was going through the toughest personal problems of my life and was acting REALLY out of character (mailing/ texting/calling all the time. I even contacted her friends). God I cringe when I think how I was back then!!, but I can laugh about it to. I have learnt not to beat myself over stuff like that. Just live and learn. We all make mistakes, the important thing is to forgive yourself and stop beating yourself up.

 

Anyway, because of my problems all the attention was deflected from my ex and onto me. My ex used the fact that I was going through this awful time in my life, to basically treat me like $%^& and turn everyone against me. She even used my own sister against me. Can you believe that! I would never betray her confidence and let my family of friends know what kind of character my ex was. Therefore it looked from the outside looking in, that I was the bad guy and she was the angel. Thankfully myself and my sister have a great relationship and it didn't take my sis long to figure things out and realise just how badly wronged I was. I mean my ex broke NC and told me that a doctor had told one of her best friends that she probably has pancreatic cancer. I of course broke NC and became a friend to my ex..It was a lie!She lied to break NC because she knew I wouldnt break it. One of the sickest things I have ever come across..

 

I love listening to this song SugarKane..I am sure it will make sense to you too..

Always cheers me up. As long as we know the truth that's all that matters. Live our lives as best we can, after that they don't matter..

 

Edited June 10, 2011 by Mack05

[WTRanger]

From your last thread on this subject, but by question still remains the same so I'll post it again..

 

If these are just strictly friends you met through your ex, why are you so shocked they don't want to talk with you now that you've broken up? I never stay in contact with any of my friends ex's. I'm there for my friend, not the ex. Plus, I'm not getting stuck in the middle of some he-said she-said crap between them nor am I going to play message boy or relationship fixer.

 

If these are your friends you knew before the ex, they sound like losers that you are better off not having in your life.

 

Something also tells me there's much more to this story from your side that you haven't told us in any of your threads. If there are people you met through your now ex, why are you relying on your ex's friends so much. Where are your friends you've had before the relationship?

[Sugarkane]

WTRanger there isn't anything that I'm hiding. There isn't anything that I've missed from the story. To me it doesn't matter who met who first, I still don't understand taking an ahole's side over someone who's actually genuine.

 

My others friends have eitehr moved far away or have grown apart. Its sad we used to be a big group of friends. I'm sick and tired of being the only one putting in any effort with them. I don't understand how my ex has kept all his friends, when he's a selfish ahole who treats everyone like ****.

 

I don't see the point in doing the right thing anymore. I did everything right, but yet I'm the one who got screwed over.