LjHappyDays Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Hi all, I got to work (bad) this morning and all i want to do is text my ex and ask him if he wants to watch a film tonight or tell him i will always love him BUT i cant cos im not gunna gain anything. The thing is my stuff is at his till i get my place (but im not living with him) so i have to pop round now and then , we talk but he just has no emotion. I dont want to look the desperate fool, but god i miss him :-( I thought to come on here cos i no how helpful u guys are
Maoky Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 hang in there! smart choice deciding not to text him =) you could always watch a movie with some other friends anyways =P
Author LjHappyDays Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Its hard not to, i just want to text and say all sorts, but he doesnt deserve my time haha ! Yeah film with friends or a few beers will make me feel better. I just need to keep busy! Thanks
Fedor Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Restrain restrain restrain! He has to make the effort.
Author LjHappyDays Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Indeed he does. I kind of want him to but then i dont want him to....
mrK Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Hey, i am feeling the exact same, you dont wanna text because you feel so desperate, but not being in contact is so hard, the things i would give just to have a cuddle and a chat
Author LjHappyDays Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 I no , even thou he didnt cheat , he hurt me by spending the night we split up with a girl who was texting him etc.... (nothing happened apparently) after 2 years you cant say you dont miss someone. As long as i have my friends around me, and dont have too much time to think. Its just because im used to being with him every day. Its the change i need to get used to. I need to embrace it!
dreamscape123 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Its tough, stay strong, you are not alone remember. Dont set yourself up to then be hurt again, or have old wounds re opened. You gave me some great advise on my other thread, so think about the things you said to me... Slightly different situation, but think of yourself first..
Author LjHappyDays Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Thanks Dreamscape, your right - i think im ok to give advice but i wont listen to my own advice i need to hear it from others haha! I kind of need reasurrance, although we mutually agreed to split up, for him to go off that night with his mate and this lass is awful - He knew exactly how much i didnt like her. We were in a proper relationship and he was never a player or anything so this is so unusual for him. Even though he swears nothing happened - Its just not fair. He lied to me too the night he was there his friend 'sam' told me 'no shes not here' my ex said 'no shes gone home' then the next day i asked again because my ex wouldnt answer the phone and i needed my work stuff, (obviously she was in bed with him) He told me she did stay!!!!! But upstairs with sam - Yes right when she text my ex when i was with him asking him if he wanted to have sex. You just dont do that. Im so Naive.
dreamscape123 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 you are right, and what ever did, or did not happen is beside the point here. He lied to you about her, and that hurts, because it leaves you wondering. Have a read of the thread i first wrote. ( dumped by my gf, then she goes off with another guy within a week) or something like that.. its only a few days old, so its easy to find.. Have a look at the similarities that you can find between our situation, and then read the advice some of the people gave me... It is hard, and if truth be told, i have sent her a mail back now, telling her that i love her, and can forgive her, but that i am going to give her space as she needs time... Just hope that has not made her think, great i can not feel bad now for what i have done, and she just move straight on... But somehow, I think her thoughts were for real... time will tell....
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