cjyoung1993 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Hi loveshack! I'm feeling much better it just recently started happening, as in 2 days ago. I just stopped caring as much about being with her. When i think about it I stil lfeel sad but not as sad. She called me a week ago and it completely set me back, i told her never to contact me again and regretted saying that all up until now. WE WILL GET BETTER I PROMISE. THis is just the beginning of my journey. Just telling you guys it DOES get better listen to some music that helps you get over it every day (Music really helps)
reimeivn Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 A month and a half for me too. I never thought I could do this. Today I really thought that I am fine without a bf, and I will not want to settle down anymore. I do have guys liking me a lot but maybe thats why I want my own space? I did not even think about him today. I went shopping and taking pictures with my girlfriend. I did mention him once or two, but did not think strangely enough. Then at night when I came home, I broke into tears. I do not know how he could treat me that badly. All that he did hurt me still. But tomorrow will get better.
Exit Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Congrats. I'm kinda getting there too. Hard to say how far along I am since we broke up around March but have remained in contact almost this entire time. But 2 days ago I sent her a text and she chose not to answer again and instead of letting it get to me I just didn't say anything else and left her alone. The next day I had a strong urge just to send her a happy text, not even asking why she ignored me, but I fought the urge to do that, and strangely fighting the urge just to send one goofy text made me feel stronger about the situation in general. I'm just not going to do the pursuing anymore. I'm going to keep working out and having fun and seeing my friends and maybe even get out in the dating world. If she ever makes up her mind about what she wants, she can be the one to say something.
Author cjyoung1993 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Exit, I urge you to go no contact... Whenever I heard from my ex she just hurt me again, and the pain was relived. I thought I could go low contact because we were best friends but its everything or nothing. For you, i'm sure sometime in the future you can be friends but right now you still have feelings with her. The best way to get her back is to not contact her and cut her from your life. If she wants you back, I GUARANTEE you will get a phone call if you don't its not meant to be. I did both, I stayed low contact, she hooked up with another guy. She got back with me then met another guy, I kind of begged, lost my integrity...it just pushed her further away and she became unbelievably insensitive, 3 years of relationship down the tubes...I went no contact for two weeks, she calls saying she misses me and loves me and wants me in her life. NO CONTACT. I've done every other path with the best results in no contact. This breakup has given me a great idea on how to handle this situation now, and for that I did learn something . I had a dream about her with the other guy, shes still in my subconscious dont get me wrong, but it just doesnt get to me as much (when im awake) I dream of her 4/7 days of the week but i think its getting to be less . So much better, it was like a light switch from terrible to bareable it wasnt gradual for me. hang in there guys and gals!
Nohbody Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Able to make plans for the future now, which is a big improvement over where I was at the end of April. Don't feel great, but do feel better.
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